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writes:Hey there, So, I came out of the closet on October 11, 2011 (National Coming Out Day) and my dad didn't/isn't taking it so well. He's trying to blame anything he can think of, such as people telling me I am, himself, the activities I participate in (marching band, winter guard {flag twirlinig}, etc.), my hobbies, etc. The thing that he's stuck on is that someone has convinced me that I'm gay and that they have corrupted me. For the record I had no help in the realization of my sexuality nor did I talk to people about it until I was sure of it. Since I've came out my dad has asked me hundreds of questions, told me hundreds of stories about gay people, and all this other stuff, most of which he's getting from gay stereotypes. Now I'm not your stereotypical gay, I look like an average highschooler, talk like an average highschooler, play video games like an average highschooler, so on and so forth. After my dad went through a week of questioning he realized that he couldn't scare me into being straight, so he tried to guilt me into it. He told me that I was basically going to burn in Hell, everyone would hate me, all my friends would turn their backs on me, everyone would talk behind my back, etc. Scare tatics also failed, so next he tried to guilt me into being straight, he says that I'm destroying our family, I'm going to die of aids, I'll never have a real relationship, etc.This also didn't work and in case you haven't guessed it yet my dad thinks that you chose your sexuality. So after all his plans failed he decided it must be my friends and the people I talk with on the computer. So my dad has blocked: myspace, facebook, yahoo, skype, aim, boyahoy, trevorspace, and basically anything that you can communicate to people with or anything that has to do with homosexuality. Now being the average highschooler I am I thrive on these websites for a social life and for something to do in my free time.So my question is how can I prove to my dad that nothing he can do will change my sexuality, nothing I can do can change it and nothing anyone can do can change.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (3 November 2011):
 Fathers can be obstinent sorts... and it sounds like your's is one of the MOST....
That said... I believe you'll find that he will continue to look for "reasons" why you are gay... Consider that ONE of his beliefs is quite likely that HE is "responsible" for your homosexuality.... after all, he is your Father, and provided 1/2 your genetic material...
Sooooo, I suggest that TIME is going to be the best - maybe the ONLY - healer for you and your Father. It will be tough... and will seem like forever.... but I'd expect that, after that long time, he'll come around and be that accepting Father that you (or, anybody) could and should expect him to be....
Good luck.... and P A T I E N C E !!!!!!
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