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*nna*belle
writes:Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for approximately 20 months now. We were so happy the first year, but then he starts talking a lot to a girl, one of my good friends, and he says that he thinks she's pretty and sweet and nice. I got jalouse and confronted them both. I lost my friendship to her, and my boyfriend and I broke up, but we loved each other too much to let that be the end. after another few months of good times, we started arguing again, a lot. He keeps talking to her, and says that she is his best friend. He talks more about his feeling and daily things/problems with her than he does with me. Our passion has gone out of our relationship and he never takes initiative to be with me, it is always my job to make plans for us and I always have to come to him. He also lied to me in the past and now I have trouble believing what he says, even though I try my hardest. Especially at late, he never tells me what he does, he seems not to care about us. I'm so sick of fighting all the time, it ruins everything in my life, and I'd wish that I could just let him go, but I'm afraid that I still love him too much to do that. How can I prevent us from arguing all the time, and make him more interested in our relationship, than in the other girl? It's driving me crazy to see them talk together. I feel like he's got a crush on her, though his best guy-friend is her boyfriend. Thanks.
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reader, anna*belle +, writes (24 October 2008):
anna*belle is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you very much for your response. This might be very long, but then you get a better picture of the situation. I have on several occasions said that I feel uncomfortable with him talking with her, and every time he says that 'she's just a friend' and he has promised many times that he won't talk to her anymore, but he still does. He was on a studytrip with his class, and I was with mine in different countries, and when I texted to him if he was talking to her, he always said that he kept his promis, but when I came back I asked him and he told me he had talked with her. There were even pictures of them standing together talking, and photos of her on his mobile phone. I broke up with him two days ago and have only very briefly talked to him since that. I see him talk to her and look at her every day, almost all the time (we have most of our classes together, also with his 'best friend' and her boyfriend. I kills me, especially that he haven't done anything to make me change my decision. I feel so torn.
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reader, anna*belle +, writes (23 October 2008):
anna*belle is verified as being by the original poster of the questionActually he lies about him spending time with her and talking to her, and will only tell me things if I ask precisely about it. I know that they aren't having an affair, but I don't beleive that he has no feelings for her. We also broke up again (as we often do), due to him being with her again and not telling me.
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