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writes: Hi all,Basically I broke up with my ex about 4months ago. I lived with him and I have to say it was one of the hardest things I have ever had to get over.We broke up on bad terms, basically didn't trust him and the relationship broke down,. After we broke up he started to see someone else (1 wk after) it broke my heart. I also found out he was always cheating on me so my suspisions were always correct. He even stooped so low so sleep with another girls whilst I was asleep in our house.The thing is I know he is an utter idiot and really messed up. He is still seeing the same girl from when we broke up but he can't seem to let me go!!I never thought I would allow myself to get in this position as I consider myself a strong person but I just can't seem to stop. I never contact him and just as I get strong and ignore him he comes back.Last week my housemate accidently left the back door open and at 4in the morning he appeared in my room telling me he loved me and wanted me back, I ended up sleeping with him but insisted we could never get back together but deep down I do still love him and I don't know why I'm so stupid with him!!!He is in a new relationship so why is still wanting me. How do I stop this and will he just keep following the same pattern?Any advice would be great and I am very confused. Done the worst part and don't cry anymore but just need to do the rest!Thanks xxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all the comments, Sory but I just have to say the lat comment I got from someone A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006):
Thats has to be the worst advice I have ever got, did you read what i posted and your comment by the sounds he's nice!!! he chested!! hows that nice and I won't be moving fast. I have decided I would rather be by myself than with that idiot, so nxt time you post a response read the the problem first because that has to be the most stupid answer I have read in my life!
Thanks to all the other responses, they were right, I have decided to ditch the loser and need some time alone to get my head back to normal and think clearer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006): Hi as far as I'm concerned their are millions of guys out there. Don't tell me that you think that this one is the only 1. GET YOURSELF OUT THERE!! Do some dating around you never know who you may find. Now if your ex is still single talk to him about how you feel and see if can still be friends or mabye even go back out. Remember start out slow you can't give yourself out to fast. But you'd best act fast because from the sounds of it he's nice and just may find another girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2006): He's using you girl! He is a player...he likes sleeping with women, and you happen to be one of the ones he is able to manipulate, clearly. Also, entering someones house without permission is illegal. Sever all ties and next time he is horny and wanders into your house, call the police. Then he'll get the message.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (2 May 2006):
 This guy is doing the *having his cake and eating it thing*. He has all the fun of a new romance and also the stability of the *old* relationship with you to fall back on. Do you wish to continue to be a doormat and allow him to treat you like this. You cannot control his behaviour but you can control your own. Dont allow this to carry on any more and stand up for yourself. You do not need to react to him and the way he acts, you can be proactive and walk away before he causes you any more emotional damage. It will hurt in the short term but it will be weel worth it in the long term.
Dont feed this guys ego by sticking around for more emotional abuse. Get strong and get out now.
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