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*attie90
writes:Hi, i'm 18 and my boyfriend has some trust issues with me because i've lied to him in the past. I know that i wont do it anymore, but he just can't seem to believe what i say. I would do anything for him, but he doesn't trust me for anything. What i don't understand is that even when i'm with him he still doesn't trust me because his friends are around. His friends are like brothers to me and he thinks that i'm going to do something with them. I don't understand his reasoning for not trusting me when i wont lie to him ever again. What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2008): Well, you are suffering the consequences of lieing to him in the first place. Trust is earned, and when you lose it because of something you lied about it can take a lot longer to earn it back then it did the first time.
What you have to do is give him a sincere apology for the lie and for hurting his feelings, and then ask HIM what you can do to get his trust back and that you want to do so very much.....let him see it in your eyes how much you realize you hurt him and that you want to make amends.
If he can't get his head around that and start to trust you again after a couple of months, then he probably isn't able to forgive you....you can't make someone do that if they are not able to, that is totally up to him.
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