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writes:Hi, I have this girlfriend, we were going on pretty fine for quiet sometime ever since she started being a bitch.She believe's that being in a relationship is calling each other 10 times a day.. , She doesnt give me my space.. I now feel like I want to run away from her.. whenever I miss her , I can only thing about the old times we had.. or just dream.. and If Id call her up we'd end up fighting.. I should say (She ends up fighting) all she can talk about is why I didnt call in the afternoon , morning or night., why I didnt pick up the phone? , why did I go to the loo? why did I do this? why did I do that? and when I get too fed up of this nonsense I switch my phone off, I've told her several times.. not to call over at my place after 2 Am on the landline, because my dad's not well and he cant keep getting up to answer the phone.. and this pisses me off since she does it each time we have a fight. I try and explain to her not to take her temper out by calling at my place inspite of her knowing my dad's unwell. She needs to understand I do not like talking over the phone for too long, I have told her this several times and she does know it as well..she only calls me up when I am with my friends, or when I am out doing something, and never when I am free to talk. I want a break.. I've told her several times she keeps nagging me.. I quit doping for a long time, but whenever I talk to her.. I feel like a joint. please help me.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 September 2008):
I think if she's got so bad it is affecting your family it is time to tell her that it is over.
Tell her you have tried to talk to her about it but she won't listen.
Be aware that if you have been smoking dope then your short term memory will have been affected and you may experience paranoia, so it may not be as bad as you make out.
But still, if she's ringing your sick dad after 2am, then it's time to tell her to leave you alone once and for all.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, lotus mama808  +, writes (19 September 2008):
 Hi there. You share the same issues as many men out there, the overly clingy girlfriend.....1st, I must say, it takes 2 people to fight. One might strike an argument, but to carry it on, it takes 2. Ask her what she wants from you? It seems she is feeling left out. Ask her why. If she insist on calling you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, then the pair of you obviously don't spend enough time together. Maybe she wants more out of the relationship than you do. Instead of trying to shake her off you, perhaps, listen to what it is that is making her feel like sheneeds to call you constantly. If you have time for friends, etc, you should be able to make time for her. She is probably picking up the vibe that you are losing intrest in her, and she feels like she needs the constant confirmation that you still love her. However, if you are not that in to her, maybe letting her go is the best solution. As for her crossing the line with calls at indecent hours, you need to be firm, tell her she will be blocked from your land line if she dosnt stop waking your father at night. Poor girl is bored, has nothing else to do but think about, and worry about you. She needs a hobbie. Good luck.
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