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writes:Dear cupid,I have enrolled myself back in to school for my education"diploma" im very proud of myself I am finally doing something for myself and it feels great.So there is a young guy who is 25 years old he seems to be infatuated with me that's fine I dont have a problem with it but he stands outside the classroom and stares at me through the glass he always wants to hug me he always want to touch me a hand shake its always skin contact but I can't be with him he is a child in my sight the teachers have to tell him to go to class.He seems nice but he is to young for me I stay in my own lane he is a kid to me I have children his age and I can't see myself with a guy my son's age so how can I speak to him letting him down easy about his infatuation of me.I am old enough to be his mom.Help Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 January 2015):
 Yea his attitude would NOT be OK with me. That mentality that he can do whatever he wants (even AFTER he has been told to leave you be) is not a healthy one and I swear if some young punk put his PAWS on me there would be NO WAY I'd stand there and "let" him.
I wouldn't tell him in front of others, UNLESS it's a teacher, but I would tell him in NO uncertain terms that he needs to LEAVE you alone. It's not charming or flattering at all, and you are NOT interested.
I think this dude sees you "trying to be nice and polite" and he takes it as an invitation to keep at it. Sorry I think you are going to HAVE to be less polite and tell him that he is wasting his time AND making YOU uncomfortable.
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reader, Sincerely Yours +, writes (15 January 2015):
 You sound like a very caring and sweet lady. I know you don't want to be rude. Maybe a good phrasing for you would be
"You are so sweet and I really appreciate your kindness for an old lady, but you really don't need to give me all this attention. I'm just here to focus on studying and not looking to meet anyone."
Or something. You'll figure something out :)
~Sy
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2015): **ORIGINAL POSTER** I have told him in front of everybody in class hey I'm old enough to be your mom but he is not listening even the principle has told him leave me be but it goes in one ear out the other.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (15 January 2015):
What BrownWolf said.
You are old enough to tell him you are not interested in him. YOU are old enough to tell him to STOP touching you.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (15 January 2015):
"I am old enough to be his mom." Then you are old enough to speak to him like an adult. Tell him like it is. Yes the truth will hurt, but it is always needed.
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