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51-59,
*eatherglass
writes:dear cupid,i have been living with and only dating my boyfriend for six months, so we really jumped into our relationship too fast. after about two months, he wanted to watch porn while having sex. my ex husband, unfortunately, ruined the experience with me in a way because he chose to pay more attention to the porn than me. i told my new boyfriend about this and asked him to simply stay attentive to me, give me plenty of reassurance, and make sure that we don't have to watch it every time in order to have sex. Now, if i am sick (like the other night) or if he is angry with me, he will watch porn in front of me and ignore me (masturbating to young (18-23 year olds when i am almost 40) girls no less. He now uses it as a tool to hurt me unless i don't feel well. then to top it off, once he has an orgasm, he doesn't want to have sex again for 1-2 weeks. what can i do to make him understand that this is not normal and it is hurtful to me?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (11 June 2010):
 You have to make sure he knows how this feels. I'm fairly certain he watches anyways, but to use that to purposefully hurt you is pretty awful. He's clearly a jerk, at least with this. I'm not sure if it's just your wording, but he sounds like a pretty bad boyfriend. You deserve someone who will respect you more than to use something he know bothers you to hurt you. That's what we call hitting below the belt. I would find someone better. He enjoys hurting you to gain power. Leave him.
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