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36-40,
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writes:Dear Cupid, I am a student who is currently studying hard and I cannot help but feel deeply upset beacuse, I love Martial arts and I am a fan of a hero who is my role model in the arts,I started out to admire him but then my admiration turned to infactuation, which I could not find myself to escape from for some time.I know he is a married man and that he has his own family but no matter how hard I try to accept, my emotions get the better of me. I met my hero for the first time at a convention and just when I thought I was on the brink of moving on with my own life, my feelings for this guy suddenly come rushing back and I can't stop thinking about him.I have'nt really got myself in a relationship yet, but I am trying and I would really like to focus on my own life and I would really like your advice to help me stop thinking about him non-stop and that there are other important things in this life than this, I just want to lead a life without obsession.What should I do? Please can you help?
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (29 September 2007):
A good fantascy is OK, so long as you don't try to act on it. Take a martial arts class and find a guy with the same interests.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): Been there, done that!! haha.
Yep, it's pretty normal... for me, it just faded over time.
I think the best thing to do is have your fantasies, enjoy them, but just keep going on with your day-to-day life & you'll probably find you'll meet someone at some point & you start up a relationship where this famous guy just blends in to the background!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 It is not abnormal to admire people in the way that you do. The secret is to identify all the characteristics about this person that you really like so that you can seek them out in a person who is obtainable in the real world. Fantasies about famous people are entirely normal and you shouldn't fret about it too much. Just accept that you won't have a relationship with that person but you can find people who have similar qualities who will be available to you.
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