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writes:Lets call me J and her M. Weve been friends for 11 years, weve known each other since grade school. Iv had feelings for her since high school, I told her this before and she told me she didnt want to ruin out friendship, because I mean so much to her she didnt want to risk losing me if it didnt work out. Well I backed off for a while n tried to just enjoy the friendship we have,n she had a few boyfriends but iv always had feelings for her. We're both now in our 20's she went off to college. I did not, and we both have changed as individuals. She kind of calmed down and is more religious, I came out of my shy shell and found my fun wild rebellious side.We still talk and see each other although not as frequent..due to her being 4hrs away at school. This past summer I tried to bring this up again. I have never gotten over her, I took her out on a formal date. I did everything to show her yea i changed a lot. But I still care for her as much as i ever have. She still gave me the same response. Im thinking the only way to get over her is to completly cut her out of my life. Because its not easy getting over her every time.I love her, im not afraid to admit that, but if she does not want me in her life as more than a friend I dont know what to do. I would like to get over her and keep her as a friend but i have a feeling as long as we are friends I am still going to have these feelings theres times i feel im over her bt then we see each other n it reutrns. Help! How can i get over her?
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reader, Deagan +, writes (20 April 2012):
 I think you're right, cutting her completely off from your life might be the best way to go to get over her. You're not being selfish by doing that, you have to look out for what's best for you. See how it goes.
Best of luck.
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