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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have a crazy sex drive. im always horny and i masturbate multiple times a day. I love having sex with my girlfriend, she is pretty much the only thing that turns me on, im constantly thinking about sexual things i can do with her. If i could be with her everyday and i had it my way we would make love multiples times a day everyday. But i only get to see her a few days out of the week, and im lucky if she wants to get intimate on one of those days. How can i get my girlfriend to keep up with my sex drive?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Mis-matched sex drives are horrible when you love each other so much.
And any pressure on her for more sex can make it worse. It's a difficult situation. Even with all the love in the world between two people, one may enjoy sex more than the other.
Do all you can to relax her, and be comfortable. Because anxiety is a sex turnoff.
In the interim your sexual needs are frustrated, and that raises the tension level.
Meeting her needs (non-sexual), whatever she thinks she wants, is one thing.
But not to the extent that you are a doormat supplying all her requests,wants, needs, while you still have to put up not being sexually satisfied to the extent you want.
You could ask her which things she most enjoys when you make love together and include an emphasis on some of those aspects when you make love.
You could try alternatives that are not sex, but which will relax her, and let her know at the outset 'tonight i am taking you to your favorite restaurant, and then a river cruise, and at the end of the night i am not going to ask nor expect you to make love with me.' So that she does not associate any treat with the thought that you will expect sex at the end of the day.
You could try to discover every sensual treat known to man, and include some in your repetoire every time you make love to her.
You could try to seriously improve all your existing foreplay techniques so that she is brought to an even more aroused state every time you make love prior to any penetration.
All of the above may encourage her to enjoy sex more.
You can only hope.
But if she is still apathetic after all those efforts, then i cannot imagine how frustrating it will be for you.
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reader, shaniyahB +, writes (24 November 2010):
 wow ur in the same situation as me....my bf is sex crazed....try doing somethings she likes....and take note of how she feels before u try to have sex with her
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