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writes:Okay.. well this is really awkward, but i've been having a major problem with my dad lately.He always touches my butt! Not like grabbing or anything like that, but he always bumps his hand into it when i'm standing next to him, or walking by him.I've told him MANY times that it bothers me and makes me feel uncomfortable, but yet he still does it. I have even talked to my mom about it, who has talked to him, and he continues to do it.I think he does it just to annoy me, but it makes me feel VERY uncomfortable...How can i get him to understand, and stop?? Reply to this Question
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reader, itsbeen5years +, writes (11 March 2012):
ur dad is an a-hole. ur not alone. my stepdad did that to me once and it destroyed my trust in him because I already told him to not say perverted stuff to me. some people are ignorant and don't deserve to be parents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): I cannot understand why everyone seems to have made excuses for your Dads behaviour. It would not matter whether it was touching your butt or making the same comment time and time again - you have told him you are upset by it and yet he still does it!! That is not right and not acceptable. I'm sorry but you are 15 years old and should not be made to feel uncomfortable physically by your Dad. I think you need to tell more people in your family what he is doing and preferably get them to tell him to stop it. I personally find it degrading as he is asserting his authority and power and some kind of entitlement over you to carry on with it and not care about your feelings. Maybe you should push him away physically next time - this could shock him enough to get the message. Do you have a boyfriend? I doubt he would think it was acceptable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): If you've talked to him and your Mom, and she's talked to him, I'd throw a major verbal fit the next time it happens and insist that your Mom comes and witnesses you once again telling him to STOP. If it continues to happen, you may need to decide to cut off contact until he can respect your (very sensable) reqests.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Are you reading sexual overtones to the innocent but annoying (loving) gesture or is he broadcasting them on purpose. React accordingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): My grandmother used to pinch my bottom every time I saw her. I ended up pinching her back once and she passed wind, laughed at me and said in Cantonese, "That'll teach you to mess with the master pincher!"
[sigh]
As it bothers you, I suggest you tried avoiding him as much as you can. This may give him the idea that you really don't want him to irritate your bottom. Hmmm... Sounds so odd with me saying that.
Alternatively, when he's not prepared, walk by with a very large foam bat and dish out a major beat down followed by yelling into his ear, "STOP TOUCHING MY BUTT!" Do that in front of many people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsorry, im 15. not sure why my age is so old...
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): If he's doing it just to bug you then perhaps it may be a case of just not complaing and waiting it out - or, you could give your dad a choice; if he wants to see you then he doesn't touch your bum otherwise he doesn't get to see you at all. Tough love and all that. You explained that you'd already tried talking to him thus taking it a step further like this might be good as the message that you don't like it may actually sink in. Hmmm, do you know any law enforcement people - i'm sure they could have a long chat with your dad about sexually harrassing his daughter (if i did that to my dad he wouldn't even poke me with a stick, lol) but that may be exstream. hmmm, smack him on the butt too - i dunno.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (12 August 2009):
 lol i think hes doing it to annoy you its not right though how is your age range correct, well your a grown woman i would say slap him and mean it. or you play his twisted game touch his but he probably wont like it when the shoe is on the other foot if he does something is wrong he could be one of those kind
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