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writes: Ive been with my bf for 6 weeks but i was sleeping with him before that and now i'm showing all the symptoms of pregnancy.The condom split 3 weeks ago during sex and i my bf is giving mixed signals first he says he cant wait to be a dad and talking of how hes going to make money for them then he says he doesn't want to be the father. I really want to encorage him to be the dad how can i encorage him and make him more interested and involved in being a dad. Please help me, i dont want to mess up my childs life. I'm only 17.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): What I meant to say is that being pregnant will ruin your plans to further your education, which would help you get farther in life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): You have been with him only 6 weeks and already you are showing the symptoms of pregnancy....sounds like you have not taken the pregnancy test. Get yourself one at the pharmacy before you go all cockeyed....also talk to your doctor about your options.
I would be worried if I were you at 17 about ruining your life as well as your boyfriends. Do you really want to take on the responsibility of parenthood, when you most likely have no clue about how much it really costs to raise a child and support yourself and hold down a job and forgoe getting further education so that your life will be better for you and your unborn children?
It isn't your job to convince your boyfriend of anything, let alone being a dad, that is something you might have thought about before trapping him by getting pregnant, he may not want the same things as you right now.
Please, if you find you are not pregnant, go on the pill so you won't accidentally on purpose get pregnant. If you are pregnant talk to your parents about what to do, as they most likely will raise this child, not you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2007): If you're 17, I'll assume he somewhere within the same age group. No way are either of you ready to have kids! You've only officially been together for over a month, so what makes you think you're at the point of such a commitment yet? If I were dating someone for a month and they got pregnant, no way would I be ready for kids, and I'm 40!
I wont tell you to get an abortion because thats not my call, but if you decide to have it and raise it, then the both of you better grow up awfully fast because your childhood is over. Full time jobs and perhaps night school to further your education so you can get better jobs in the future to help raise your child the way it deserves.
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