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writes:Me and my ex broke up last week, it my choice. He did some things that I didnt like. We didn't speak for a week.Now I'm kinda regretting it. I want him back. Despite what went off. If not as a lover, then at least a friend.I text to see if he's alright, and he replied, he was ok. I don't wanna come across, desperate, I'm not, but I just miss having him around. We had some really good times and it seems like such a waste. How can I initiate contact, so that he would stay in contact. I don't want this to run dry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmore info as requested::
I assumed hed had a fling with someone else.
there was some pretty obv signs. but i think it was just a fling. and yes i maybe did act to hastily.
i dont feel like this because i have no one else, i have had offers from others, but they dont mean anything, he did and still does.
I do think there was alot left unsaid, but i dont want it to resurface, i just want to move on, with or without him, but if theres a tiny chance, i could convince him to give things another try, then i want to try it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): Sounds like you have acted before thinking through the situation! You don't say what the problems were, which would definitely influence what I am saying. Was it cheating or just some annoying habit, for instance?
It doesn't sound like he is mad if he responded with an answer to your last message. Message him back and tell him you miss him and are wondering if he feels the same way. Leave it to him. If he doesn't answer, stop all contact. He will make it clear how he feels and whether he is receptive.
I do encourage you to stop and think before you proceed with this advice. It's natural to miss him. Is your wanting to get back together just because you don't have someone else at this time? Would the problems you had with the relationship just resurface? They are not likely to change. You have to accept him like he is, or it will not work. What was the seriousness of you problems?
I suggest re-evaluating because you don't want to hurt him or yourself again. A lot of times when we don't have something anymore, we want it back.
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