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writes:Me and my ex broke up 3 months ago. It's been hard for me. I still love him, have feelings for him, and I think about him constantly. I'm o.k. when I don't see him. We attend the same church. He stares at me constantly. He's 47 years old and just completely shut down when I told him that I wanted to talk about just being friends and won't talk to me at all except when he sees me. He told me that he still has feelings for me and misses me, but he doesn't call me anymore. I approached him and told him how I felt. I think that was a big mistake. Why didn't he just give me my closure? Why don't he just say what he's really feeling or is this just because he don't know how to express his feelings. If he can't see me in church, he will move where he can.
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reader, Twirly  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Ahh poor you, that must be so hard! I agree with Emily, just try to ignore him, and if you get a chance to talk to him on the way in or out of church perhaps you could say 'hey, what's with the staring, stop it!' in a jokey way.
Failing that you could take a really hunky handsome friend to church with you one week to really get him going! (im kidding but that would be fun!)
Just try to ignore him Sweetie, he'll stop sooner or later. Hope you get over him soon, time is great for getting over ex's, hang in there.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 May 2008):
When he's staring at you, stare back with a disgusted look and mouth "What!?" in an angry way. Or point him out to other people so they see it too. Then after church ask him why he's staring at you. He can't deny it when you've caught him out.
You don't need him to sit you down and give you "closure." What do you want him to say? He's let you go. You could have been the best thing that ever happened to him and he's thrown that away. He's a childish idiot if he won't speak to you.
After confronting the staring, blank him completely. He had his chance, he blew it. Give your self closure because he never will.
Move on and find someone better because this guy is not worthy of your shoes.
Good Luck!! xx
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