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writes:I've always been the sort of person who keeps themselves to themselves, but it's really starting to effect me. I never have any energy to make the effort with people because I'm in a sort of fixed routine, and it's not because I'm lazy it's because my body always feels completley drained. Everyone seems to have these fun exciting lives, yet I usually just sit up in my room doing nothing or I see my boyfriend where we just chill out, we don't have fun; I mean I absolutley adore him but I don't have the energy to do anything and usually end up half asleep on him. I'm not really close with my friends, I never have been with anyone and I don't have chats about meaningful stuff with my family, so I'm used to relying on myself; I absolutley hate it but that's the way it is for me.I'm basically getting sick of feeling this way and everythings getting me down, so any reccomendations would be great just to help me feel awake every once in a while.x Reply to this Question
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reader, Manya  +, writes (5 June 2009):
Dear X,
You sound kinda stuck, looking at life from behind a glass window, can't get out there? I think you need to treasure yourself and be good to yourself, get in touch with your feelings! Your time will come!!!
There are some novels about teenagers who feel similarly to the way you feel, perhaps the main character had just moved to a new neighborhood or is being stifled by a family member from expressing themselves -- these are just made up! I would tell you to talk to your school librarian about some books about teenagers who are trying to fit in- sounds like you need some new friends who share your interests! Please have faith that you will feel better soon! Connect with teachers and clubs that you are genuinely interested in and don't feel guilty about being your very own precious self! You will have more energy when you are doing something you enjoy! (But also eat & sleep well, of course.)
please keep us posted!
Love,
Manya
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the two resposes, I think it's probably just a mixture of everything, I'm quite skinny, but I eat tonnes, I vary on and off on being healthy or pigging out depending on what mood, anyways, a bit of exercise and the doctors might be useful so thanks for the advice.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (29 April 2009):
 One more thing -- if you have sleep apnea it does make you very tired during the day. Your doctor can tell you more about that. But basically some people stop breathing during the night, when they're sleeping. Obviously you start breathing again on your own, but these weird lapses can deprive your body of oxygen, making your tired and lethargic the next day. Your doctor will be able to tell you what can be done for this problem. Do go get checked out. You're young and you should be out there having the time of your life.xoxox
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (29 April 2009):
I think you should have your Mom schedule an appointment with your family doctor and have them run some blood tests on you to make sure something is not going on with you. I have no idea what your overall health is like, do you eat properly? Do you sleep enough at night? There are a couple of things that can zap someone's energy. 1. You have low blood sugar. This can be easily fixed by eating 4 or 5 small meals a day and never skipping meals. If you have this problem, you'll need to be aware of how food affects your energy level and what you can do to fix it. People with low blood sugar problems, usually do better if they don't eat heavy meals, if they avoid sugar, and cut back on their carbs (like breads, potatoes). Your body will respond better to a little more protein and make your portions really small. It's all about snacking (not potatoe chips and candy bars) but a handful of nuts, or a piece of cheese. You may find this helps you alot!!! The other thing could be hormonal or depression. And the two can go hand-in hand. If your hormones are whacked out, you may be feeling a little depressed and it makes you lethargic and like everything is pointless in life. You're much too young to be having this type of energy problems, so I suspect there is something going on and your physician should be able to figure it out. I hope you get better.
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reader, Pythagorean_Variable +, writes (28 April 2009):
This is exactly the kind of life I was leading just a few months ago, so hopefully what I did will work for you!I'm sure typical responses for this will be what you eat and how you exercise, I agree those are awfully cliche', but the exercise is important. And no, I'm not talking about lifting weights and running a million miles. Simply doing stretches and going for a small pleasure walk is all you need to get your body moving. This will give you a good start to making some headway to getting more active. As you build up your energy I suggest you start surrounding yourself with people. As you have more energy to deal with people you may notice some things about hanging out with them you may not have noticed before. Don't worry about whether going out with them seems fun or not, I mean even if you are not having fun, at least you are with people. Its better than not having fun by yourself in your room.I hope this gets you started, good luck!
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