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writes:i dont know why but im shy to strip for my husband...how can i get comfortable in my own skin? after i gave birth i got stretch marks and i dont like my body anymore.this is ruining my marriage and i hardly hv sex with my man anymr...i want to be able to tease him,strip for hm and without feeling shy o scared to because of the way i look.hw do i regain my confidence.i want to save my marriage because my sex life with my husband is heading for the ruins if i dont do something about it...please help
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reader, Scrib12  +, writes (22 August 2012):
The ultimate way to loose baby weight is eating right. You can do all the exercises, but if you miss out on that, it will never work. I've lost 13kgs in 9months. My only exercise is taking a 1hr walk daily!! I've gone to an extreme diet of eating a lunch size meal for breakfast, and very small meals split thrice throughout the day, and a fruit for dinner. Cut down on calories, especially potatoes, and rice. Increase vegetables and eat meat normally. Ensure your diet is balanced the secret is small meals, and NEVER sleeping in a full stomach. Haven't had to deal with stretch marks though.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (22 August 2012):
From a male perspective I would like you to know that your husband loves YOU. Your loss of confidence in yourself will give your hb the feeling that you aren't interested in him any more. Please talk with him and explain whats upsetting you. Then go out and buy a tube of strech mark cream and ask him to rub it on you. Rub it everywhere, lots of it! My wife has had quite a few babies and I can tell you it works. Ask you hb to go walking/jogging etc with you 3 times a week, swimming is also great. If you have babysitters at hand then go out dancing. Try and eat healthier again, remember you arent eating for two anymore! It will take a few months but you can do it and it will be worth it. In the meantime go out and buy that skimpy vest that your hb can take off you and rub you in cream! Cheer up and start feeling prowd of yourself, good luck.
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (22 August 2012):
 Keep the lights low, place the lingerie strategically around the parts of you that you feel are less desirable and the rest will fall into place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Im kind of in the same boat as far as getting my body back and getting used to the stretch mark. My first was born in 2010 so the stretch marks arent my main focus as much as the bby weight and the way my skin seems to sag ugg. Lately ive been making it more of routine to exercise and make more vegan recipes and cut down on sugar carbs ect. I also started a new job which i actually rly like. So i think you need to do something that makes you feel good. Instead of concentrating on being comfortable with a strip tease to make him happy, you need to focus on being comfortable naked around him in general. At night when your kids are asleep strip down to bra and panties and hang out with him. Watch a movie, cuddle, get used to being nude around him. Make out, touch each other then move it to the bedroom when you feel comfortable. Have him take off your bra and panties. Let him take charge. Get comfortable with having sex again. Im sure your hubby would be grateful just that you are making an effort having sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2012): Buy some sexy lingerie and strip down leaving it around your middle hiding the stretch marks. He'll be too focused on the other parts to even notice, lol. This will give you more confidence and then you can feel better.
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