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writes:I had been in a relationship for 7 yrs about a year ago I found out that he was cheating on me, b/c I loved him I just figured that if I stayed with him and showed him that I loved him he would stop and of course it never did about 8mo. after I found out what he was doing I finally got the courage to ask him to leave, we seperated but we still would see each other every week for lunch or to be together. After 3 mo. we decided to get back togther and I figured he was gonna be different b/c when he was cheating he was really harsh with the things and ways he would treat me, yea it did change for about a month then he was acting the same I dont think he was cheating but idk.well last week he came home and told me that a girl that he met called him that day and told him she was pregnant with his baby, I was upset told him to leave and go take care of bussiness, he told me that wasnt what he wanted to do but its was much for me plus I know that he always wanted kids and well we had been trying but we found out that I have tumors and would probably never be able to give him kids, so that was another reason for telling him to leave he needs to be happy and have his own kids, when he left I told him that I never wanted to speak with him again b/c I wanted to move on and he told me to please answer his phone calls to check up on me and help me out with bills and stuff, I really want to be happy, I always thought it would be with him, but if I love him should I allow him to be happy, should I still talk to him, or move on I dont know I tell myself that I dont want to anwser his calls but I always do, why cant I be strong, deep down I know that we are better as friends but I love him to much to be one for him, plus if we stay in touch I'm afriad I wont be ale to date anyone for fear of him finding out. How do I deal with this pain, fear, quilt, sadness, lonelyness, can we be friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2010): Hello,
You found out he was unfaithful, and thought he might change and he continued to betray you.
I would give up on him. He is untrustworthy. Now he has a baby on the way with this other woman.
You deserve someone that can commit to you, love you, and make you happy. It seems like he won't change.
I'd suggest NO contact. Move on with your life, and keep busy. I doubt he will change.
Good luck
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