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writes:Hello to anyone who is reading this. I have a problem, my friends think that i am to good for my boyfriend. They believe that i should leave him. They also believe that he's a waste of my time and he's holding me back from the things that i want to do. Instead of them giving me advice they criticize me in every way. Sometimes it's my friends who i think that i should let go instead of my boyfriend. But, im always going to love him no matter what anybody else thinks or says because im the only person in the whole fucking *[excuse my french]* world who truly know's how he makes me feel and how i feel about him. Im going to love him regardless becuase he's my heart and because he completes me. I know that we may argue at times but what's a relationship without the ups and downs. Things can't always be perfect...right? So my question to you is this how do i get people to see him the way that i see him? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Hi, your friends probably think that they are being helpful and that they have your best interests at heart. My suggestion is to tell them that you have listened to all their advice, and have thought about it, and have decided that you love your boyfriend and will stay with him. Go on to say that they will eventually understand how great he is and how good he is for you. And then tell them, nicely but firmly, that the discussions about this issue are now over. You do not care to discuss it any more, the topic is closed and you will walk away if anyone brings it up again. Then do just that, leave if the topic comes up again.
Don't tell your boyfriend that your friends don't like him; this will not help the situation. Instead, try to organize events that show him in his best light. What is he good at? This may help change their perception of him.
Forgive your friends for interfering with your lovelife, they are just looking out for you, even if you think they are misguided. Good friends are gold.
Take care!
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reader, ChiRaven +, writes (28 August 2008):
 Stick with him. Eventually they are going to start to understand that there has to be SOMETHING that they are missing. When they start to take a closer look, they will start seeing all the wonderful things that make this guy so special to you.
In the meantime, it's just a matter of thinking (although you probably shouldn't actually tell them) that they can just go fry ice cubes if they don't like your choice. The only ones who get a vote in the matter are you and your guy.
Peer pressure can be a bit rough sometimes. But when the subject comes up, you can just tell them you have heard their opinions and understand that they have their own points of view, but that you do not share them. It's your own life, and you're going to live it your own way. You might even thank them for their concern. But make it plain that you are your own person and intend to do what you think is best for you.
Keep your friends if you can; but keep the guy as long as he suits you and you suit him. Don't let others talk you out of it.
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