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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I beg for your help, something is driving me totally insane.I'm dating this chick for 8 months. She is the most beautiful, smart and elegant lady i've ever seen. We go along so great together and our relationship quickly became very serious.She started to like me because I was the bad boy disrupting the boring routine she had with her ex - who was a total geek. Me, i'm an rocknrolla, so she fall for me.At the beginning, sex was great. I could give her a mini kiss on the lips, she got totally wet and horny.But with the time, this is gone. First, I became the "official" boyfriend. I am a very sweet guy, I shower my girl with affection, and she told me already it's too much for her to handle.Beside, I have a very strong sex drive and I want it all the time. At the beginning, she was pleased with that but now she sees me a bit like an animal.She has no more sexual desire for me. She doesnt get horny, she rejects me when i initiate, when i succeed sex is bad and boring, and she doesnt even dare to cuddle because she s afraid it leads to sex.I have been a bit insistant - Mistake! - and pushy, and I realized only later that was a major turn off.But matter of fact, I am very frustrated. I have no more sex neither affection.How can I bring her desire back? Don't tall me "be sweeter", because I'm the sweetest man on earth. I think what actually turns her on is the unreachable and mysterious bad guy. Should I act like this again? I am granted, I all the time ask her for sex and she knows i think a lot about it. I think that's what turns her off, she wants to feel like a challenge again perhaps.I'm so lost. I know she does love me and I do love her too. Please be straight forward, tell me how to make her want me again, otherwise this relationship is going to crash.Thanks a lot, thanks....PS: I am 25, she is 23. I always gave her great sex, it's not a matter of performance.
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reader, missdimples3  +, writes (22 July 2010):
 I think I'm having the same problem with my boyfriend... I thought he was something he is not anymore.. and him being too pushy doesn't help me trying my best to stay in!
i think we like it when guys are hard to get.. and we love them when they show us thy are not only with us for sex. if you really want to win her back.. prove to her that you are all that and show her that she means more to you then sex! do the little things that you know she likes!
good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): I think you should dump her. She already has a boyfriend, as you said. Besides, I think she is toying with you and she is the kind which just toys with a guy then, when she is bored, just ignores him.
Anyway, maybe she isn't like that. Try to woo her again but don't insist on something.
All the best
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