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writes:okay so i am 18 and really frustrated with how to attract boys, i am a virgin and i feel like that is my defect, i get hit on alot but not by the guys i like :( is there anyway i can stop being single without the mind games that come along with "hooking up"? i just want a decent guy Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2010): You can attract as many guys as you want but you dont get to choose decent guys... after all you cant tell until you know them better. Its chance after all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Try with a magnet! Ha ha, just kidding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2010): Do not have sexual relationships for the sake of it. God meant sex for marriage, so try to save yourself for your loving husband. Just make sure you do not marry a moron.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): The good guys are picky and they only go after girls they really want. The players are not picky and they hit on anything with two legs.
The result of this is a perception problem. The number of guys and players might be half and half, but you will get hit on by WAY more players on any given night.
Keep the faith. Lots of good guys are out there.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (16 August 2010):
 Hunny, this isn't because you're a virgin. I'm not a virgin and I have the same problem. Being a virgin isn't a defect, in fact its amazing, I'm actually jealous of you. I lost my virginity to one of those jerks. But ya know what, there are good guys out there and I know this is probably the last thing you want to hear, (I always hate hearing this) but you will find someone great someday. All you need to do is NOT SETTLE.
way too many people do that. but PLEASE PLEASE don't think there is anything wrong with you, because saying that just puts the blame on you that these guys are pigs, when its them. not you. good luck hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2010): First of all, kudos on being a virgin. I know that it is more difficult because of this, and I would recommend you not losing that until it is with someone at least in a serious relationship with you. Now to answer your question, I think what you need to do is be yourself, do the things you love and be with people you like, and I'm sure you will meet someone. If you are in college, it should be easy as pie, just go to events or friends' parties (not the crazy drunken ones most people think of if you're looking for a decent guy).
If not, there are still many opportunities a person at such a young age can meet other decent eligible guys. Although I don't know what you are looking for in a person, you could join a local gym or make it known to your friends that you are looking to find a date with someone they know is "decent". Of course this is also sometimes bad if they set you up with a real loser, even if it was their best intention. In the meantime have fun being yourself and know that you're young and someone deserving will spot you, you just have to recognize that potential and try it out. I never thought I'd date my boyfriend, but we've been so happy for almost 2 years, so I'm happy I gave him the chance.
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