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writes:So there's a really cute girl who works at the gym at my university, i've had a crush on her for the past year but only recently (2 months) had the courage to get her name. we exchage small talk couple times a week whenever we see eachother no real conversations. i found out she likes the same kind of music i do which is quite rare and i want to ask to a concert coming into town next week. my problem is iam extremely shy around girls. i've been trying to ask her all this week each time i see her but i always flake out. does anyone have any ideas on how i should go about asking her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): As an oft shy guy myself I share one of the many revelations that may be so obvious for many but took me years to realize on my own.
We can only achieve the greatest things in life when we are willing to be vulnerable, when we accept that the prospect of pain & failure is a reality, and that the rewards at the end far outweigh sitting comfortably on the sidelines.
That being said, the required change in mentality is only half the battle. The simplest, perhaps most lazy answer I will give, is to walk up to her and just ask. There are always more charming ways to go about it but you don't want to make yourself even more nervous by deliberating that perfect sequence of words to say...then finding yourself screwing it up during execution.
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