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writes:how can a man tell you he wants to be with no one but you, through good times and bad times, the only person he wants to be is with you, and have all his friends react genuinely because this is the firs time they see him truly in love. and then have him turn off his emotions instantly over a fight, and become the cruelest, coldest man i have ever met.i know in my head, that i should not want to be with this person anymore, but i want to know why. somehow i feel so used throughout this relationship, i did so much for him from my heart, i cooked for him all the time, bringing him breakfast in bed, ran around town to buy his favorite snacks, did his laundry, planned outings, surprised him with gifts, bought him an ipod filled with all his favorite music that i worked on for a month, gave him whatever he needed. after all that, he says, that i've done nothing for him, he claims he's staying in the country for me, which is why he does all the work in the relationship, and i said, i do so many little things to make you happy and he just got angry. i know i shouldn't want to be with this person, i just dont know why he turned into such a monster, and can't appreciate me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionim from canada, and he's from the uk.
i have accepted now that, yeah, he's totally dysfunctional in relationships. the things he's said to me, how he blames me for everything. he definately does not treat me with respect. and i've been letting him do it to me. thanks, this website has been so helpful to helping me move on. its so funny, that when this happens to yourself, its the most dramatic, painful experience, and you feel so alone, and then i come here and so many people, in heartache. i dunno, puts things in perspective i guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2008): Why? Because he's an egotistical, selfish s.o.b. You say he comes from a different country. Could it be that he's from a culture where women are typically treated like second-class citizens by the men?
If not, its possible that he is simply dysfunctional when it comes to being in relationships. Or, it could be that he's mentally ill in some way.
Whatever, don't lose any sleep over it! Just be glad that he's out of your life! He does not deserve you!
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (21 April 2008):
 It sounds like he has no respect or appreciation for you...You don't treat someone like that who you are supposed to be in love with. It doesn't sound like he knows what love is, or knows how to treat a woman.
You're too good for him, wait for someone who will appreciate what a good girlfriend you are!
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