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41-50,
*inkorswim
writes:I'm in love with a fantastic man, who can't do enough for me. He's handsome, fun to be with, smells fantastic, intelligent, a mind blowing lover, he adores me and we're the best of friends too. There's nothing that I can't say to him, we're totaly relaxed in each others company.Problem is my housemate just will not accept that we're together and makes life really difficult for us. Thing is, its my house!!She's always behind on her rent, does nothing in the way of housekeeping, and then has a face on when I want to have my bloke round. My man and I have discussed this many times, and we can't work out what the problem is.... I've asked her, and all I get is "He's going to hurt you" well maybe! If I cross a road there's a chance I'll get knocked down, Or if i get on a plane it might crash. I just don't know how to keep everyone happy... Including myself.Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, sinkorswim +, writes (3 August 2010):
sinkorswim is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou everyone for your advice.
I got rent this month!! in cash!!
Still working on the man thing though. She spent a few nights a way at her mums last week and I didn't expect her back till thurs, she came home weds instead, I'd already told her that my man was coming round as I hadn't expected her back for another day! She ran in the back door, up the stairs, grabbed so stuff n ran out again, slamming the door!
Comfronted her about this, and I still get the " i feel as though I'm in the way".
Anyway I'm off out tommorow night with him and stopping out too.... So I'm prepared for frostiness when I tell her
Wish me luck xx
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reader, rivi  +, writes (28 July 2010):
Well can't you give her a month's notice to leave ?
Citing the fact that you want to feel relaxed when you invite the bf around but that you cannot knowing of her disapproval.
If she creates more of a mood during the notice period couldn't you bunk up with the bf for that month ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): I agree with eyes. The thing is the reason you leave home, is to be able to do what you want in your own home. Don't try to make everyone happy it can't be done. Maybe you can come up with an arrangement, when you have your boyfriend round she gives you both some space.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): Use your contractual agreement to penalize the late rent.
Tell her she is to maintain the premises on her end. If you do not have a written agreement for maintenance, structure one right away and deliver it as an addendum to your lease agreement.
Time to turn off your interest in her opinions. I would completely disregard and ignore all her negative faces, and I would never even share a dialogue with her on things you know she is trying to sabotage. You may even have to pretend you don't hear or see her misbehaving.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (28 July 2010):
 She's jealous. If it's your house and she's a pain in the butt tell her to shape up or move out.
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