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writes:dear cupid,soo, there's this guy. for security purposes, let's pretend that his name is trey. we met back in january and became super awesome friends right from the start--texting each other pretty much nonstop, hanging out all the time...you get the picture. we were actually "talking" for a while (we even shared several kisses), and both of us really thought that we were going to eventually wind up dating.as it turned out...we never did. i still wasn't entirely ready to stop trying to work things out with my ex-boyfriend, and apparently, trey wasn't ready to give up his four-year-old dream of being with this other girl (who had finally decided to give him a chance and became his girlfriend). we remained close even after this--the one difference was that we didn't hang out; we just texted all the time and talked on the phone a few times.about two months after they got together, trey and his girlfriend started having issues (just as me and my ex were continuing to do at that point) and eventually split. he invited me over to talk one day, but we actually ended up doing a little bit more than talking (there was intercourse involved). this continued for a few consecutive days before it became more along the lines of a once-or-twice-a-week type of thing.eventually, in addition to making out and having sex and things like that, trey and i began discussing the possibility of actually giving romance a serious try this time. once again, we both thought that we were really going to wind up dating...but once again, we never did (for the same reasons as before).even though we got into a few fights about the situation, we still stayed close friends. i actually consider him my best male friend, because i can tell this guy absolutely anything and not have to worry about him judging me or looking down on me or losing his friendship or anything like that...and i always do my absolute best to be the same way toward him.here lately, though, things have seemed kind of...different. rather than hanging out at least once a week, we now go for about two weeks or so without seeing each other. and instead of texting for several hours every day, we might say "hi" and leave it at that. does anyone have any idea why this might be?i've been thinking about just talking to trey about it...but even though i feel like i can tell him absolutely anything, i just really don't know what to say in this situation. can someone kind of give me an idea of what the best thing to tell him or ask him would be?his ex recently moved to austin, and mine is preparing to move to beaumont. now that they will both be truly out of the picture, i kind of want to talk to trey and see if there is still a chance of us ever ending up together. do you think i should...and if so, how should i go about doing that?
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reader, Sassy78 +, writes (27 July 2012):
 I have a similar situation I am in as well if it's meant to be things will fall into place...who knows maybe he's enjoying the single life you might both need to since it hasn't been that long since you both are back on the market..an it's never I good idea to jump back into one too quick..I would give it sometime enjoy him for now..relationships can be hard an could hurt your friendship..or if its meant to be it will work out on its own..i would feel him out if he's distant theremaybe a reason for that..so be careful..he's already had u in bed an may want some time to himself toExplore his opinions..but If you guys have this great friendship an the sex is good etc..Believe me he'll be
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 July 2012):
 If you are both currently single at the moment and you are both wanting to be with each other, then I say yes you should go for it. It sounds like you both like each other a lot and there is chemistry between you both. You say contact has dropped at the moment, so maybe try and raise it yourself. Give him a call more often or send a message. Ask to hang out more with him and see how it goes. Be flirty and show him that you are still interested.
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