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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey ThereIv been with my boyfriend for only 4 months. In this time iv had problems with him being over protective of me and not trusting me even tho iv never done and never would do anything wrong. Im pretty laid back and i know he texts and catches up with his best friend whos a girl a fair bit which i never cared less about. Just yesterday i went to re send a message he'd sent me from his phone (not thinking twice that he'd care i mean most of his messages would be to me anyway) the message above the one i was looking for was to his "best friend" saying "I hope one day ill get to sleep with you"I was totally distraught i stormed off to work he knew something was up and messages me saying"What you think im cheating on you" i then explained why i thought this and he wrote back he didnt know what to say his ruined the relationship. I wanted to know why he would say this and what else he has been saying he swears there was nothing else and he doesnt know why he said it. How could he not know? He said he does stupid things sometimes and cant explain himself. I went to see him after work 50/50 about breaking up with him. He was crying his eyes out and saying he would never speak to her again he only wants me he made a mistake etc. Im so confused everything was going so great i love being with him but iv lost all trust. I know he didnt physicaly cheat on me or anything but is it possible to get trust back. Im so insecure now he says he will do anything in the world to get my trust back no matter how long it takes but is this possible or could this be something he culd do again?any feed back is appreciated thanks heaps
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010): First of all, I admire your reaction. His message to another girl was completely out of line and his excuse where he claims to not know why he said this, is even more pathetic! He said it because that's how he feels; I'm sorry, but one day he probably does wish he will sleep with her.
You can decide to give him one more chance but you don't have to. He probably will stray off again like this so if you do give him a chance, make sure to watch him fairly closely.
If a guy is truly in love with a girl and only wants that one girl, then he does not send texts like this some other girl. As simple as that.
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