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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost three years now, and his family have been there to invade our privacy the whole time. No matter where we go or what we do, they are always phoning him, even if he is about to see them, or has just come from seeing them. He is almost 21, and his mum doesn't let him drive, so I have to, and he then has a curfew of 10pm. He's also been banned from working, so when we go on a date, either I have to pay, or he spends his weekly allowance in one go (which is $50). I'm not allowed in his house and when I want to call him, I have to call him on his mobile. His mum and his sister are complete control freaks! They have even broken into a hotel room that we have been staying in (telling the staff that he was passed out from taking drugs) and walked in on us having sex. I have talked to him numerous times, but he says that they will never change, and just want to be a part of his life. They are making him choose between them and me. I love him so much, but I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with this. Three years and no change? What should I do?
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reader, Transcowboy  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 Its time to move on. After three years and nothing has gotten better. Any man would be going crazy if there family ran there life. He knows he doesnt have to do anything and why should he change, if he gets money for doing nothing and everything he wants. Move on, you can find someone much better who is not a mama's boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): His family is out of control!I mean,he's 21 for God's sake,
and he's not allowed to drive or work,I mean come on!Most
guys would be longing for independence from that kind of
behavior,but I guess he likes it.Three years,and I know you
have talked to him about it.He isn't willing to change and he's not going to.Like eyeswideopen said,he's a mama boy.
And diovanlestat is right,for he's afraid to stand up to
his family and for himself.So MOVE ON hunny!Find a man who
is sexy,smart,and most importantly,independent,fits your
description of a guy you want and knows what he wants!Hope
everything works out.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 July 2008):
 You have been in a relationship for three years with Peter Pan. I doubt if he will ever grow up, sounds like he enjoys being Mama's good boy. Tell him to look you up when he decides to grow up. Don't waste anymore time on the dope.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): Your boyfriend will never change, and neither will they. He is afraid to stand up to them, and is allowing them to control his life and what he does. He is 21years but he still allows them to treat him like a little boy. He is allowing them to come first and he does not treat you with the love and respect that you deserve. You need to either accept the situation or you need to think really hard if you continue to live this way, because I see no solution in sight.
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