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writes:My in-laws have hated me from the begining of our relationship but my husband said that he was a grown man and no one could tell him what to do... eight months into the relationship he had to leave the country to work so he told me he wanted me to live with his family until he gets back, he spoked to his parents and the agreed, but they started complaining about me every chance they get and my husband says he belive what they said and because he loves me that is why he is staying with me. They never stoped trying. It has been five years now and he takes me where ever he goes to work but now they are trying to break us up via long distance. Now the reason why they hate me so much is because I was married before, my husband died and I have a daughter from that marriage. I am worried now that they are putting my daughter against me.could someone please give me your advice. I am ready to give up because he won't stand up for me.
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reader, fighter +, writes (7 February 2008):
fighter is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your help.This is what happened yesterday. After living with his family for two years he wanted my daughter to carry his name... the lawyer said she will not do that until we were married. On our way home he said that I have not convinced him that he should marry me. I asked him if I was on probation and if he wanted to be suer Iwas good enough in bed..... so the he decided to get married the next day. He did not tell his family. I told his grand mother, and I told him on more than one occasion that he should tell them, but he said no. eventually his grand mother told her. His mother told us she new that we were married. Now after one year of that conversation she sent him an e-mail saying that she did not know we were married and only saw athe marriage certificate a few days ago and she wants to know why he did not tell her. He told me he will her from work and if she calls me don't say anything, although I asked him to call her in my presence. He said he will try to keep her quiet. Meaning he will tell her what he think she wants to hear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): Get out now, it will only get worse. He is stuck in the middle and i know he should stick up for you but its not easy. Good luck and hope it works out for the 3 of you.Holly x
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reader, korculan queen  +, writes (7 February 2008):
I was in this situation. My ex mother in law used to comment on our children and say I wonder who they look like. Meaning they do not look like my son you harlot. Anyway, I am Croatian, his family was English so of course I was the little gypsy girl in their eyes and he never stood up for me and he became abusive towards me and when I finally left him and told his mother what he was really like she defended her son and funded his family court battle against me. I self represented myself in the family court and I have custody of the children. You see if he won't defend you then he is already gathering his battalion against you. In my experience you are fighting a losing battle and no matter what she will always come to his defense. If you confront her she will deny,minimise your feelings and deflect them towards you making you feel silly for over reacting and then when you walk out the door feeling as dazed and confused she will talk about you behind your back as though you are a fruitloop. I have been there and all I can say is that he is a mummy's boy. No one will ever match up to her in her eyes and no one will be good enough for her son. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): You should certainly tell him how you feel about his parents trying to break you up. It is totally outragous that you should have to suffer; it's his and your choice, not his family's. Tell him that it isn't working youliving with your in-laws and find a place to live in for when he comes back. As I say, it is unfair.
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