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writes: My fiance and i live with my son and his. His ex lives with her husband about 100 miles away and only sees their son 1 in 3 weekends. I love this lad as my own, have never had a problem with him. Yet she talks to me like i'm a piece of cr*p. My bloke says she has never bad mouths me to him. Yet i want to get on with her. I never speak to her horribly. I told my bloke that he should mention it to her but he says he can't because he want things to stay good for the sake of their son. He doesn't want to rock the boat. I feel belittled by her every time she's on the phone. Basically he was scared of her when they were married, she went off with someone else and left him with the lad. She married the other bloke and went three years ago. We have been together now for 20 months but i feel he should say something to her. What do others think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2006): I think you should ignore the silly insecure bitch. She is just trying to belittle you in. Don't rise to her bait.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): I say for now; make sure that you are never alone with the woman-never give her an opputunity where she can belittle you and abuse you. Try to have someone present when she is around and never talk to her over the phone. I don't even think your BF should talk to her over the phone; send emails instead.
This gives you both a paper trail and will stop the verbal abuse; thus forcing her to be mindful of what she writes. More often than not; no one wants to take the time to be an ass in an email. If she is; well you have evidence.
Get some individual counselling as trying to get your boyfriend to side with you will only create tension and have the opposite effect of bringing you two together-it will push you apart.
You told him you were unhappy. You told him what she says and how she is when he isn't present. This is what she wants. So she makes you out to be some insecure woman making up crap. Of course she won't put you down in front of him she likes the game and torment of you believing he doubts you. She is very crafty and hell ugly.
So...don't give her ANY oppurtunity to play her twisted games. Ignore her. Don't worry about impressing her or winning her over as you WILL never be able to because she doesn't want to. She's ugly. Let her be unhappy with being an ugly person.
Focus on loving that boy and yourself so you and BF can be happy-that will cause her grief and good. IT's her own problem.
Best of wishes.
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