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writes:Ok im pregnent and due middles of jan and been with my guy for 6 months anyway, he still has a close relationship with one of his ex the one before me and i no they talk on the phone everyday, should this be wrong that they still talk and see each other i no nothigs happening she even lends him money sometimes if he needs it Should i be worried or am i looking more into this or should i just let him remain mates with her, i now he loves me but does seem strange with this he still takes the piss out of her but the other day he texted her saying larry as she was sat on her own but then he said to me dont worry love, i said to im ive got nothing to worry about because your horrible to her but deep down i think the reason hes horrible to her is he still has felings for her deep downAnyone agree with me
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2009): Well I kind of lost you at the end there.. But i'll do what I can. The ex-factor is usually pretty complicated and really seems to get to people. I think that some thing people should try to understand from their significant other's point of veiw, is that just because it's an ex, doens't mean they have to completely erase them from their lives. They were together in a romantic way, but typically if they have broken up and moved on, they don't have feelings remaining other than friends. And two people cannot be expected to go from caring deeply for each other, to not caring for each other at all. Since your man has given you no reason to not trust him (that you've mentioned), and you said you know nothing is happening, then I think that in your situation, it would be a bit controlling to tell him to not speak with her anymore. Sometimes it is a very reasonable thing to ask, but I don't see that here. I don't think there's anythign wrong with it.However, if it is bugging you and you talk to him about it and he doesn't care or isn't willing at all to compromimse with you, then that is wrong. You two can come to an agreement. For instance, he doesn't have to talk to her every single day. That is unecessary. You could ask him to simmer it down a little bit with her and make more time for you. As for treating her horribly because he still has feelings for her... That one doesn't really click with me. Hopefuly you'll get some other feeedback to cover that one. ~Sy.
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