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writes:Hi Cupids, I just want to know if its just me with an issue about this subject or would other women do the same as me?I've been with my boyfriend now for 1 year and 2 months and im currently 5 months pregnant with our little girl, he constantly argues with me that i moan all the time, when in reality all i moan about is seeing each other (we live 60 miles apart) more often. However, last night we were talking and he's recently bought a new laptop, however the back ground to it is a picture of Gemma Atkinson - the model with her boobs out. I hit the roof about it because to him she was perfect, but wasnt i ment to be? i then questioned him by saying 'am i not good enough for you or something?' but i have underlying self confidence issues and i'm one of those people who dont think theyre pretty because of bullying issues when i was younger. Ive tried so hard to be his perfect little thing numerous times, he never says im pretty or gorgeous and then he rubs it in my face by sending me the picture of her and telling me to grow up. I just want to know what i should do next? is it worth sticking around? im fully aware males do tend to have fantasies etc but that honestly crushed me with a brick, would you have reacted the same?(Account not real age, I'm 17)any help appreciated, ThanksJo
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 Ouch 17 and pregnant..he's acting really petty and childish. Hopefully he'll man up real fast when he has to take care of a wailing newborn..I doubt he'll have much time to get onto his laptop. Or will you be the one taking care of your child due to him being 60 miles away? Just curious..
Anyways, you're getting jealous over a model that is unattainable. He's playing off your insecurities and shoving the picture in your face. Let's get real, guys are going to ogle over models, and have playboy bunnies with their downstairs exposed above their tool boxes. Is there anything we can do about it? No. Except for to get over being jealous of a page torn out of a magazine, or a desktop picture. It's nothing but an airbrushed image..they had to airbrush over her cellulite thighs and that huge zit she had on her nose. No one's perfect. I don't know why you're so quick to leave him over that, that would be silly. There's a possibility there's more issues between you guys other than a trashy desktop picture.
You're beautiful, you're pregnant and have that motherly glow about you. All pregnant girls are gorgeous..whether your boyfriend notices it or not. Other people that see you do notice. So have some self esteem..don't look to your boyfriend to boost it for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2010): My bf would do the same things. I'm sure it can be hard if you had been bullied but you just need to believe in yourself. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!! Everyone with a kind spirt is beautiful which is really what counts. People are not going to remember what you look like they will remember how you make them feel. If you are a nice sweet caring person you are beautiful. I know it can be hard to ignore especially because you are pregnant and gaining weight. Just believe it. dont let him get you down and it doesnt sound like he is trying. Its just he has a picture of a naked model on his computer, he is a teenage boy, thats what they do. One day he'll take it down and have a picture of you and your baby on that computer. I promise! take it easy!
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