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writes:Hey everyone, ok so I'm 15 and I have a boyfriend who's 16 and he's my first boyfriend, but I'm not his first girlfriend. Anyways, whenever he talks to other girls I end up getting super jealous, and i thought that would be a sign showing that i care, but unfortunately he hates that and he wants me to change.Since he's my first boyfriend, isn't jealousy normal for me ?? He thinks that I don't trust him but I just get scared that he might find someone better than me, and I can't risk losing him, that's why I'm all up on him. What should i do ?? Is he right that i'm being too jealous or is this normal ?? please be specific and thanks so much [=
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): Honey, he is with you, isn't he? It is normal for him to talk to girls because he is in school. Try to overcome your jealousy. Jealousy is not a part of love and could result in doing nothing but pushing him away. Ignore his talking with girls. Don't you talk with boys, or do you ignore them all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2009): If all he is doing is talking to other girls, then yes, you are being insecure and jealous. It sounds like maybe he has reassured you and is asking for you to change. So think about what it is that you need from him to feel more secure besides him cutting all other female school chums out of his life....and ask him to help you a little by doing what ever it is you need....maybe more hand holding, a nick name that only he knows, him writing you love notes, a poem professing his undying love?????
And then just stop being all up on him. You can't lose him smacks of dependency, not love. I mean really, are you going to die if he breaks up with you? Of course not, and at your age you have to know that eventually he will, you are both very very young and will have more romantic relationships ahead of you, so just accept this and chill out, concentrate on something else like having fun and enjoying his company.
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