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writes:hello, first of all happy new year and merry xmas...well, I'll get straight to the subject, I work as a mass com teaching assistant in uni, and there's a guy who works as an architect engineering assistant in my uni as well...I recently broke up with my bf of 8 months cos he stopped caring, and this guy is too good to be true! he's gorgeous in a way that when I see him I become speechless...we've talked few times and last time we kept talking for over half an hour!! there's a great chemistry and we've got each others numbers, also today he's sent me a greeting's msg...just seeing him makes me forget all about my nasty ex...earlier this month there was an event and I called him to ask him to join, he said sure but didnt come as he's too busy working in more than one job, also he offered that I work with him in a magazine that he designs the layout for and I said yes, but whenever we meet he just keeps asking when are you free to meet with you and I keep saying just choose a time and I'll manage, and he would then say ok I'll call you and I'd call you not just for work, I'll call to ask on you...however, he doesnt call...I believe it's because he's busy, however, I wish he'd be more available, so how do I make him want to talk to me more without pushing him away, I don't want to be the one calling,I've called once already...any advice??Thnx a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Good advice from Rhythym. Try to get that date and set up a definite time. It's okay to give a nudge and this could be a good test. Give him the benefit of the doubt here and say, maybe he's shy and a bit scared. However, you are the one that's around him-you know his personality. If this last attempt doesn't fly, don't sweat it and move on to toher opportunities. Because if he let's you down one more time, it could mean, he's not interetsed. Sorry to sound harsh, but I won't beat around the bush with you. I have to say, if he liked you, no matter what is happening in his busy life, he should never have forgotten to call you. Simply put-men do not forget the woman they really, really like. And some guys say things they feel a woman would like to hear, in other words, some of them are good BS'ers. So if he says he's going to call you and he means it-then he would've done it. So on this point, not calling you could mean a blessing in disguise. It means you discern his character a bit and realize you want a guy you can have a relationship with, who is trustworthy and true to his word. That is the building block of an awesome relationship. Just something to think about. But I want you to get smart and not accept anything less in your life when it comes to potential love. Expect that when a man says he's going to call and he doesn't-call him out on his not being true to his word. Don't be so willing to make excuses for him no matter how gorgeous he is. Be strong, girl and if he doesn't respond to a date with you...cut this flake loose!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2006): Nest time you see him instead of being non-committal and vague about getting together, nail the date and time, you do it, don't wait for him....say I am free for lunch on Wednesday at noon, when are you? Get an answer decide on a place and time and meet up with him....and be friendly and be a good listener and see where things go from there...
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