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writes:Ok I've been talking to this guy for about 4 months but only seeing him for the past month. Things have been amazing and I really see this going somewhere. The thing is he has come on very strong from the start. Things like he hasn't felt like this in 8 years, wanting to see me 24/7, making plans for months down the road. It doesn't bother me cause I'm crazy about him but I freaked out for the first time the other night. It was his birthday and we had been drinking and he told me he loved me. I was drunk and pretty much ignored it and went to sleep. I've been cautious with this relationship because of past hurt and I know he only said it cause he was drunk but the truth comes out when you're drunk, no? Could he really believe it so soon or am I doubting him because I've been so scared to trust him. Deep down I know he really likes me and my gut says the farthest thing from player. I guess my question is.. Is it normal for a guy to come on this strong or is this signaling a desperate kind of man? I guess this whole thing seems too good to be true and I don't want to be missing something cause I'm blind to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): Dear I am 29 years old.A pure Tomboy.I have more guys as my friends than girls.
I agree he took the whimp way out.Rightly said.Atta girl!There's hope for you.Dating involves some games at least.All is fair in love and war.
There are some guys who might like it as anonymous said.But the majority of them like to pursue.you don't want to chase him away.Now is the time to act cool.
One of our Aunts Irish49 wrote a beautiful answer about the dating game.I would suggest you read and reread it till the message sinks in.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-it-worth-ringing-him.html
Love can be expressed with actions too.Its there in your heartbeat too.My vote is to let him tell it first.Make him work for you.You are definitely worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh no now what do I do? See i know he would be ecstatic if I said it first but I don't want to. Not cause I don't love him but cause he took the whimp way out when he did.. Any ideas if I decide to? We have a long romantic weekend coming up...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): bugs... I think some guys get turned on with that kind of thing. I'm one of them.. and I was swept off my feet when my girl confessed her love to me...before I did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I think its time to change my profession.Just kidding.I am happy for you girl.
Please remember not to tell it back to him till he openly tells it to you.Some guys get turned off when a girl expresses their feelings.I would say,tread very carefully, now that you know that you are in love with him.All the Best Dear.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIn response to bugs.. I was thrilled when he said it and the only thing I'm scared is because "everyone says" it's too early so it makes me doubt him. I've since completely surrendered to this guy and I'm going with the flow. He has said I love you 2 more times but they were again in weird situations.. like I was half asleep and he was leaving and woke me up to say goodbye and said "love ya babe" It doesn't matter really cause I'm so in love with this guy and I know things are going somewhere with him and I'm just enjoying the ride.. thanks everyone
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): Who decides the rules of dating?The society?.Other People who are dating.?
Why are you feeling uncomfortable?Because you think its too early to tell it?Or is it that it is not supposed to be told this early?
Ask your heart.Were you thrilled when he said it to you?Or did you get scared?
I believe with all my heart that at times love can be a lightning strike.When we come across the one who makes us feel this way we would move heaven and earth to keep them with us.That's what he seems to be doing.
If you are feeling scared,let him know.If the love he holds for you is real,he will let you feel free.He will wait for you to reciprocate the feeling with out applying any force or pressure on you.
you are already half way in love with him.That's what I feel.you are letting your past hold you back.Please keep us posted.
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reader, messedupfemale  +, writes (30 November 2008):
 I honestly think that this guy could be on the rebound and using you to replace the place of an ex that broke his heart - I cold be wrong, but it has happened to me before.
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