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26-29,
*eile
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year.Ever since I have finished my major examinations, he became unhappy that I spent more time with my friends/Computer and afterwards unhappy about me not taking enough initiatives.And then about his mother. So many problems arise.He used to show me a lot of love and care, supporting me through my examinations and coming down to my house to accompany while I'm revising.But after that, he creates problems by being unhappy me for being or doing this or that.His sister told me that "he always wants things to go his way, and when they don't, he is not happy about it.He doesn't really know what he wants, so he changes his mind a lot and expects not to be questioned about it. And I feel that slowly, I'm being taken advantage of.When I talk to him on the phone (Calling), he 90% on the tv and 10% with me. He doesn't reply me or either takes a long pause to just say "Mm"/"Yeah"He expects me to start a conversation but he doesn't reply to me. I asked him questions, a long pause with no answer.I had it, and I hanged up on him.An hour later, he called 5 times but I didn't pick up.The next day he called 7 times. I didn't pick up.Communication is important but it isn't working out. Whether by the phone or in person, there's really nothing much to say. He says he has nothing to say.So do I.What should I do? How should I act towards him?Discipline by ignoring him or just succumbing back and see him?
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reader, Beile +, writes (18 December 2012):
Beile is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well the problems before about the comp and friends have been solved. But is just that problems just keep on appearing.
Fortunately, I'm not the one who called him.
He called me first.
He made the effort to call but he doesn't say anything.
Our phone conversations have very long Pauses of silence in between.
He used to be the one that comes to see me. Now it's me who do so. But he doesn't seem to appreciate it.
When I go to his house, he never acknowledged me, only talking to his mum and afterwards going to his room.
Until I came in. And make an initiative...
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