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female
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36-40,
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writes:My "friend" (if you want to call him that) and I have been sleeping together for 8 months. We dated for awhile and he even told me that he loved me and wanted a child with me. He's still married (but seperated). He and I have a really close bond and we have great chemistry. I knew he was going to divorce his wife but never has. She has come back to him twice since I've known him. And it breaks my heart everytime she does. He says he doesn't love her at all, he just does it for his daughter. I want another relationship with him. I still love this guy. But, he says he still wants to be alone. I've tried to go out on dates with other guys and talk to other guys. When I tell him I do this he gets kind of jealous you could say. But he says he's not. He says all the time that he wants me to be happy, that he still has "love for me" and that he doesn't want me to get hurt. But everytime I bring up the topic of us dating again, he gets weird and says "We're too close of friends". I cannot for the life of me get over this guy. He's broken my heart twice and I still keep running back to him. We still sleep together but I have an emotional attachment and I can't tell if he does or not. I'm afraid to date anyone because I don't want to be in a relationship and then he decide that he wants to be back with me. Am I doing the right thing or is this a lost cause???
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 May 2011):
 You are not doing the right thing. You've ceded your life to a guy who is MARRIED to another woman and who basically has told you in action and deed that he just likes to sleep with you.
It's a lost cause. Take your power back, take your life back. You will have to go through the grieving process, the same that anyone else who breaks up has to go through but you deserve better than to be nothing more than a married man's sexual side dish. Really.
Definitely a lost cause. Life's short, don't wait around for this guy who has demonstrated over and over again that he's an unreliable cheater. No matter how handsome or charming he is, I don't care, he's not worth your energy!
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