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writes:Hi Aunts/Uncles, You are prob sick of me by now but here goes!! My husband has admitted that his texts to his 'other woman' (sex texting colleague) did have allusions to sex in them (well quel surprise, would never have guessed!!!). I dearly want him to tell me how they alluded to sex without being explicit with each other (he keeps denying the texts were that explicit). I've asked him a) did you describe what you'd like to do to each other b) tell each other your fantasies c) talk dirty to each other when phoning. Each time he avoids answering the issue. I think it's partly cos he wants to forget the whole thing and doesn't want to hurt me any more by being explicit but also that he's too cowardly to face up to what he's done. Could anyone enlighten me in the light of their experiences, especially fellas. Thanks again x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): he is the same old *astard, always lying , always deliberately not accounting for his actions. each week i read about him. strange how i can see the real him but scrambled brain you choose not to.. you torment yourself and you torment US, why is he not tormented for his affairs. deep in your heart you know that he has cheated on you much more. i know you "love" him but look at this mans character. false, conniving, manipulative., false.
the enemy is not all these women he has cheated on you with. your enemy is in your home, your bed, YOUR LIFE. THIS ENEMY IS YOUR HUSBAND. when are YOU going to give us a break. you would notice that the regular aunts and unles who tried to support you over this 2 year affair discovery are now silent. why? we just read and shake our heads. because no matter what we say we cannot get through to you. Sorry if you think I am harsh - i am just frustrated, just irritated, just annoyed that every week you post without moving on. sorry, i think i am running out of sympathy for you. Why because YOU choose to pretend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): From a womans point of view whos "been there" with a partner doing it behind my back. Its shame that makes them want to forget it all. And by keeping quiet they hope to have a little damage limitation. If you are angry now....how much angrier will you be if you know even more? Thats how hes thinking.
He just wants to forget it happened but you cant. So a sensible man would just come clean, explain it all, so you can decide if you even want to be with him anymore! Then if you do, the pair of you can repair the damage. Doing things his way will just drag the situation out for eternity with you being less than happy. He was foolish to do it in the first place. Now hes foolish and wont understand that you need to know just how far things went. Its your relationship and you have a right to know how serious it was. Only then can you either resign yourself to it all or leave him.
I would tell him that you are going to assume the worst and imagine he was very graphic with her. That seems to be the case by his continued silence.
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reader, cry  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 get rid of him hes not worth it he sounds like a head ache kind like my butthead
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