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writes: My boyfriend and I are going to have a baby. He and I live about 4 hrs apart. I moved in with him so we could be together and he had a good job. I missed my home and family too much so about a month after I left I came back home. He is mad because I want to have the baby in my hometown and not his. He keeps saying I'm taking the child away from him but I'm not taking anything away from him he knows he can be around for as little or as much as he wants. I feel like he is asking to much from me to leave my home during pregnancy and I am only 19. I still need to finish college and my parents will help me by letting me stay and being able to work from home and go to school. We argue over it all the time. He is making me feel guilty for wanting to be home during this. I am being unreasonable with him?
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reader, tux  +, writes (3 October 2006):
 A lot of details may be missing from your post to really tell, but you also need to see maybe where he is coming from.. From what I do see, he does what to be with you and you leaving is saying that you'd rather be with your family rather than the family that you are starting with him.
and you say that he could see you as much as he wants.. but with you living 4 hours away now, he can only see you now when work permits. I mean you have do sides here.. yes it is nice to be able to be with your family but also keep in mind that he is going to be the father of your child and he may just want to be able to take care of you and your child as well and you are taking away that chance and he may feel hurt about that.. I mean he does have a job where he's at now... and he's going to need that to support your new family.. The two of you need to talk and see if maybe he could transfer closer because I do know that is not always possible. or maybe just find as good of a job closer to where you are now. You need to talk to him about this because you do have 2 families.. yours and the one you are starting with your boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2006): No you are not being unreasonable
Is it possible for him to transfer closer to you After all, you made the move for him and its understandable that you want to be around your family at this time I think for him not to understand that is unreasonable
You dont wanna be away from your family at the momemt You are still young and need them around you to support you Im sure his family are nice but you need your own around you
If he cant transfer how about him coming up at weekends and holidays If you are able to travel you can spend weekends with him
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