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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend (we’ve been together for a year) is very attentive and affectionate when he has had a few drinks but if I look for affection when he is sober he will pull away quickly or ask me to give him space. He is not shy or an introvert, he's actually outgoing and gets along with most people. Why the differences in behaviour?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): Sounds like alot of men - drinking brings down the barriers - but I would associate this with men out and about in Bars n Clubs, not a boyfriend
You need to talk because this is a huge red flag which is already making you unhappy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): For some reason he relies on alcohol to soften or to be vunerable. Its a taught behaviour and I am guessing by one or both alcoholic parents.
That he does this also shows he has an alcholic personality so with this, he will be emotionally abusive.
Why would you find such behaviour/treatment acceptable?
I would have turfed him months ago.
Know what I am saying?
Peace Out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2011): I would say that there could be few reasons for behaviour like this.
1. He is horny when he is drunk, so he shows affection
2. Alcohol reduces his inhibitions regarding affection.
What I can say is that some people who are very outgoing and gets along with people can also be the type who are not necessarily the type to show affection. Do you want him to show you affection all the time, maybe he feels pressure. No-one can tell you why he is this way exactly except him. I think you should simply sit down and talk to him and ask him why, it's the best way to find out.
Hope this helps and good luck.
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