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writes:I have been married for 3 1/2 years and already feel as if I made one big mistake :-( My husband is EXTREMELY boring in every sense of the word. He does not stimulate me at all. His conversation is one and only one topic and even with that topic it is usually the same stuff that he keeps repeating over and over again. When I go to the in-laws, I can literally write down their conversation (they are all the same). To top it off, my husband has premature ejaculation (REAL BAD) I GET NOTHING in that area as it always ends even before it starts. I would be forgiving but I find his addiction to porn a total INSULT and although I have spoken over and over about this to him, he can't seem to help himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is an older thread, but I feel I need to add my "two cents" on the subject. I was deeply in love with and engaged to a man who turned out to have a serious porn addiction. We had met online and developed rapport long distance so I didn't see this side of him until I went to visit and stayed with him awhile. He was downloading it from torrents day and night and saving it all to disk, of which he had thousands. As if that weren't bad enough, he was also a regular visitor to and participant in an interactive adult social site where anything goes on webcam. He had a nifty collection of video clips he recorded from there,too.He was so enamored of that site that he developed a scheme where he would draw me a lovely scented bath every evening and insist I go relax in it, which at first seemed a loving gesture until I found that this was to get me out of the room so he could perv online. When I confronted him about all this, he promised to stop and begged me to give him a second chance. I believed him at first, until it happened over and over again like a broken record. As for our sex life, premature ejaculation wasn't the problem - he had a hard time coming without extended masturbation.This is one helluva addiction,ladies. It can break your heart, destroy your self-esteem - even give you STD's if he's hooking up, which is often where this leads. It is a relationship and soul destroyer for sure. All I can say isif your man's into it to the point of disrupting intimacy with you, don't think twice - just RUN FOR THE HILLS!!!
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify  +, writes (23 May 2009):
 surely he didn't change overnight, what drove you to marry this man in the first place? if we kew that we could give you a better opinion. it sounds to me like he makes no effort to do fun things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): A true porn addict cannot help himself any more than a heroin addict, he will have to seek professional help in order to get better. The problem with this particular addiction is that it is actually a chemical addiction, made so very powerful by the body's own 'feel good' chemicals.Premature ejaculation is a typical symptom and eventually complete loss of attraction for one's mate. Your future with this man is bleak.If you love this man and wish to be with him, then insist he seek counseling (from an EXPERT, not every therapist knows how to deal with this). Under no condition should you stay and live your life like this, it is not fair to you.You can gain a lot of insight into this disease by visiting npsupport.net It is a support board for addicts and their significant others. You will find out what it takes to overcome this addiction and base your decision from the knowledge you find there. I wish you the best of luck, you will need it!
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