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writes: Hey,Im pregnant, and quite happy with our relationship, but theres always something nagging in the back of my mind. My boyfriend never had a g/f before me, so he has always relied on porn. I can accept porn to an extent, i even like a bit of a look. It became a problem when he started lying about it. I would repetedly ask him to tell the truth and own up, but he wouldnt, even when i showed him the things i had found. He would eventually own up but it would take hours of nagging. I dont want to be a nag, i dont want to come across desperate and i dont want to put restrictions on my boyfriend but im doing all these things and turning into the girlfriend from hell. He has secret dvd's about Golden showers and granny porn... he seems addicted to older women porn, but then i found porn with like 14/15 year olds in it. This kind of thing really worries me.. i know that scary porn is the first step of a psycho!! The main problem i have is that he will swear over and over again that he is going to stop, but i keep uncovering his lies. I havent got time to be a full time detective, and i havent found anything recently, but i suspect he is just better at covering it up. We have a very healthy sex life, so i dont understand.I live hundreds of miles away from my family, and he is the only person i have for support. Im so worried, shall i move back to my family or stick it out with the man i lovei couldnt bare to have my heart broken by himplease help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2006): you should leave the sick twisted freak. grannys , golden showers ? even worse kids. he needs mental health
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006): The male respomder below sounds as sick as your boyfriend.
If the girls arre or are not under 18...the point is the look like they are...and he gets off on that...GROSS GROSS GROSS....run girl as fast as you can but on the way stop off and call the cops on him
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 November 2006):
First, you do sound like a nag.
Secondly how do you know the girls are 14 or 15? There is lots of porn of malnurished eastern europeans who look under 18 but in fact are not.
In a world where gays marry, granny porn seems fairly tame. Unless he starts stalking the bingo halls, dont worry.
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (7 November 2006):
 Hi Anon,
When i was reading your post..and you mentioned your his first girlfriend ,i thought ah maybe he still looks at porn for experience as some guys do, alot of guys pick up tips from watching porn..but then you mentioned him watching young under age girls and granny's ,some guys are into that kinda stuff (what ever floats your boat) *cough cough* no comment..personaly i don't blame you for being worried,i think if i was in your situation and im in my 30's i would think it quite sick and i wouldn't be so forgiving i don't think its right, he obviously has a problem,at the end of the day his not being very fair on you, and not thinking about your feelings ..your pregnant,and when a girls pregnant half the time we don't find our selfs very attractive so his not doing you any favours by watching stuff like that...and tell him how much its hurting you..maybe compromise,if you don't mind watching porn yourself, then tell him your both watch a movie together as long as thier ones you would like to watch..at the end of the day if his still lying to you and hiding this kind of stuff from you, then i think you should think twice about this relationship your in and maybe give him a ultimatum...
GOOD LUCK
xLEAHx
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (7 November 2006):
 This a very unusual case,you say you have a healthy sex life but he likes porn.Well yes men do weather it be old or young woman or men in some case but not 14-15 year old girls.I dont think it is even leagal for girls that age to be porn stars.Just try telling him that he needs to grow up and ask him why he likes looking at it?
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