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writes:My current boyfriend right now is 46. He smokes weed at most 2 days out of the week. It really bothers me, but he doesnt become a bad violent person or anything like that. I think weed is a bad example for our kids, we live together, but he doesnt do it in front of them. He also puts a front in front of his family, meaning, they think that he is an angel and do not smoke weed or drink beer. He is a very good man. he provides and he treats my daughter good and participates in all school activities that she has and even picks her up after school. Should i just let him keep doing it since he doesnt change in a bad way anyway? He still keeps up with the bills and is still loving to me and my daughter. Should i leave him because of weed?
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (15 August 2010):
Do you occasionally enjoy a little something that alters your consciousness? Maybe get a little tipsy on wine? Most people do. Most people have done it one way or another since prehistory. I know plenty of people who smoke seven days a week and are respectable, otherwise law-abiding people.
From what you've said, you have absolutely no problem with the man other than him getting high a couple times a week. The fact that you would consider leaving him for that frankly sounds borderline crazy to me.
Your kids are going to smoke weed someday. Believe me. And it's not going to hurt them. You should develop a more realistic attitude about this basically harmless plant.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 August 2010):
 If it really, really bothered you/hurt you deep down he should stop. I'm pretty sure given the choice pot or family, he'd choose his family. Let me ask you this though. Other than you're worried about the example it sets for the kids, does his pot smoking affect you in any other way? Pot is well on it's way to being legalized in the US and Canada, and therefore will be less of a bad example in the near future. As well compared to alcohol and cigarettes it's far less dangerous and near impossible to be addicted to. It's just kind of an innocent pleasure of his. It really doesn't hurt anyone. I wouldn't advise breaking up your family over a few joints (though I can't speak for what you're feeling). It really doesn't sound like he has a drug problem. Why not try it with him from time to time?
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