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writes:Let's just get straight to the point here. I'm 15, like to think i'm considerably much more mature than the usual for my age, and I'm in like with a 22 year old.See. I notice this huge age gap here, and I do realize it's stupid to hope/wish/think that anything would happen. I've been trying for a while now, past... two months i'd say. To try and just get over the fact of liking him because it is pointless. It is hard though.We get along very well. It's one of those easy kind of relationships where you just get it. He's kind, sweet, and doesn't share much about himself, which shocked me when he opened up to me before anyone else. Frequently tells me that he enjoys our talks, and appreciates me as a person. We'll usually pair up and distances ourselves from the group just to chat sometimes, and then when apart of the group if he makes a comment to someone he'll usually look at me for backup. Or he'll tease me by commenting about something I hate to someone else.I do think it I was older there'd be a possibility of us attempting at some type of a relationship. I get mixed signals from him all the time, and I guess what i'm looking for is for someone to just set what I think in stone. We're great friends. We have a natural chemistry, and easy going trust, and are just comfortable with each other.Righto? I'd love to hear your thoughts and opinions. Honesty is the best policy. :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2009): My girlfriend is 7 years younger than me, both of us are mature and both of us agreed to take the relationship slowly for now. 7 years isn't that big a gap I know people that have married with an age gap of 30 odd years, and couples which have been going strong despite a 10 year gap.So despite age differences if its love age shouldn't matter, though at your age it may be wise to avoid sex for now, just in case things go wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009): Hey, it happens. Watching my own kids, I quite believe that girls make the leap to maturity before boys do. And some 15 year old girls for sure make a leap to where they are engaging adults. I won't deny that you might be one of them.
Nevertheless at 15, however mature your outlook, you haven't had the life experience of someone in their 20s. And if this chap, in his 20s, is relating better to you than his peers, then he's missed out on some important growing up. To be blunt, you're bonding to a misfit - a boy who's immature for his age.
If I'm right, a relationship would be bad for both of you. For him because it's helping him to hold on to him immaturity. And for you, because you'd be bonding with someone who's maturity is retarded for whatever reason.
I can certainly understand how your friendship with him is gratifying. But I don't see how it's healthy for you in the long run.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (18 August 2009):
 I think its kool just use your brain about somethings and you wont have a problem. but would your parents accept this relationship.
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reader, kehurch +, writes (17 August 2009):
Ah, I know the feeling. I worked with a guy who was 21 and I was 15. We were best friends because we had the same personalities. The only problem was, he sometimes tried to get me to hook-up with him. Then I realized thats all he wanted. A lot of guys that age only want younger girls. So, IF he tries to hook-up with you, a little too much, STOP. You can go a few years older but seven years is a little bit too old. (:
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