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writes:I am a 27 year old single woman with no children. Over the holiday weekend I went out with friends from college, and met a 42 year old man. We exchanged phone numbers and have been talking ever since. He has told me a lot about himself and his children. He is not in relationship at this time, has a career and takes care of his children. Conversation is excellent and very attentive to my needs. Should I worry at his age. My parents are 47 and 48 and I’m sure they would not approve. However this is my life, I’m an adult and take care of my own affairs.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 December 2015):
 Worry about his age in what way?
If you like him and he likes you then have fun.
Be aware however that if things get serious, you have issues to deal with.
a. his children may not like that you are closer to their age then his (my oldest son is only 11 yrs younger than my current husband)
b. your friends may not be comfortable with it or your family
c. he may want different things at 42 than you want at 27 such as he may not want more children and you may want children.... or you want to marry and he does not... (this is far in advance but it's something to consider if you think you will get serious and this will be a breaking point)
As long as both parties in the relationship are happy and in agreement and over 18 I see no problems with it.
my husband is 13 years younger than I am but when we met we were both older and wanted the same things from a marriage.
We are actually dealing with the fact that my first grandbaby is due in March and he's going to be a 42 yr old "grandpa".
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (3 December 2015):
Yes you are an adult and no one will dispute that. But being an adult means accepting responsibility for your actions as well. It is more than just accepting/ignoring what people may think.
For example, it is only clear this man is looking for commitment and a wife. He is not in the position to have adventures and such, after all, he does have children. On that note, he has children. Even if you choose to ignore it now, you will have to soon accept these children into your life as you will become a part of theirs. Yes he takes care of his kids, and over time this is something you will have to do as well.
What about you? How is your situation? Basically, what is your plan B? Do you have a job? Are you financially secured? Do you have close friends whom you can trust that you can ask for their opinions about the situation? It's not going to be all roses and peaches after all and it is usually a bad idea to forsake everyone for one person.
Many people say that age is just a number. But they say that to hide the many things they do not know about the other person. Make sure that if you decide to go into this,you take your time.
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