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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6-8 months now. On our sixth month, we broke up for about a month. No contact at all. Then we got back together. He told me that during our break up he slept with this other girl. Slept with her a couple times and they were going out for just about a week or so. Right now, I don't know if I could trust him. He's a really good guy when he talks to me I feel that he's really sincere with what he's saying. He tells me he loves me but a part of me is thinking that he might be cheating on me with this other girl. I dont really have any evidence but I just feel insecure right now. He thinks I'm too good of a girl for him (I dont drink, smoke, party. Just focusing on studies), and I feel insecure about it. He might feel that I'm boring, that maybe he can't relate to me. But everytime we're together he always tells me that I make him happy. I don't know what to feel. He's 29 and I'm 20. We're like the complete opposite of each other.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (27 November 2014):
 If you're concerned about anything in a relationship, it's always good to talk about it with your partner. That's how the relationship grows and trust is built.
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reader, Helga17 +, writes (27 November 2014):
Helga17 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe broke up because he didn't want to hurt more when we spend more time together when we know he's leaving to study abroad. And this really was the reason and I believe him.
Should I ask him about the girl im suspecting that he's cheating with?
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (26 November 2014):
Why did you break up in the first place?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 November 2014): Relationships only work if you trust each other. Why did you take him back?
Now lets use simple logic. What would it take to make you trust him? If you can't answer that question, you don't trust him and don't really want to.
Put your mind at ease. Dump him and move on.
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reader, Alexandra23  +, writes (26 November 2014):
I don't see why you should feel insecure about being someone who doesn't drink, smoke or party. I don't do any of these things too and I enjoy a healthy relationship with my bf. You should feel comfortable with yourself and not feel pressurized to conform to how he might or would like you to be. And do not for a moment think that you are boring or let any of these negative feelings/insecurity get to you. At 20, if you want to focus on studies, then go for it. There is nothing wrong with it at all. Some people don't even know what they want to do at 20 and I would like to think that studies should be a priority. Every couple works differently but it is important to let him know how you feel. I think any girl would feel insecure too if they found out their bfs found someone else and slept with soon after breaking up.Personally I wouldn't feel that his feelings are genuine. If he really loves you he wouldn't have slept with someone else and then reappear in your life after things didn2 work out with her. But that's just my opinion. You know him better. See his reaction after you let him know your feelings. If he brushes it off or gets defensive, then he wouldn't be much of a boyfriend. If he is willing to take actions to assure you, give him another chance. Best of luck! :)
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