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writes: im 17 and recently ive been getting close to a 26 year old who ive known for all my life, he has a girlfriend but they're breaking up, do you think hes too old for me? and hes cheated on her in the past so does that mean he'll cheat on me? help!!
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reader, Ali17 +, writes (23 August 2006):
Personally i dont think he is too old for you. I am 17 and in a relationship with a 25 year old man. We have no issues about our age... the only problem is other people who think it's wrong and strange. But we love eachother want to be together. So as long as you and him have love and trust... go for it!
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reader, tux  +, writes (18 July 2006):
 I wouldn't worry too much about the age thing on this one...
The thing worrisome here is the fact that he has cheated before and is getting close to another girl while still "dating" another without breaking up with her.. There is no such thing has a couple breaking up... It's either they are together or *are* broken up... Because for all you know he may make it sound like they are breaking up, but he may just be looking for something on the side.. Look around this site and look how many people post stories like "I love him/her and they said they were going to leave them but haven't yet.." I'm a firm believer in that people can change.. but he is not showing change.. In my eyes..
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (18 July 2006):
 He's a bad match for you. Not necessarily because he's almost half-again your age, but because he's fooling around with a family friend's child, while still with his girlfriend!
Sheesh, what a cad. What a loser.
The age difference can be a problem in future (I married a 25-year-old when I was 17, so I know), because either he'll be frustrated when you want to go and do the standard young-adult partying in a year or two, or you'll be frustrated because he's already done that and is ready to settle down.
There's also the issue of you being from two different generations. You'll find that leads to a lot of puzzled looks from you when he wants to discuss music or politics or recent history, or embarrassment when he dresses in old fashions.
Most importantly though, he's showing that he's not capable of having a real relationship by showing interest in someone who's still schoolage. That suggests strongly that he's afraid of relationships where the power is shared, and wants someone who's tractable and easily controlled. In other words, You.
Steer clear. Very bad idea.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2006): This sounds like a self absorbed, uncaring, unresponsive man who is incapable of understanding a woman and who is not willing to meet her emotional needs.
Stay away from his Sweetie.
Date men your own age.
His age is attractive as it suggests stability and reliability...don't get fooled by a number.
His past actions PROVE he is not good for you or any woman.
Be strong!
Wait for that someone who can be what you need and who wants to be what you need.
*hugs*
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reader, TrishaWhit +, writes (18 July 2006):
 26 is not too old, it's an age gap, sure; but a legal one.
At least you're not 14 and dating a man 20+.
As for cheating, well, people can, and do change.
Trish
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