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writes: Hi there.I appreciate that there are some genuinely nice people on this site who care about people and try to give good advice. Maybe some of you can share it with me today. My problem is trivial really. Its just really bugging me tho. I have this female friend in work who i get along really well with. We have good laugh together and basically enjoy a good friendship. yesterday she asked me for a lift home because her usual lift had let her down. This was no problem for me because we life in the same town. Anyways to my niggly problem... For the whole car journey home the conversation was megga akward..I'm quite a gabby person so I was able to keep the conversation going but i could see it in her face and in her body language that she was dying. Arms folded tense body quivery voice and all the usuall signs of someone who's really shy and struggling to make conversation...Anyway we got home ... she got out of the car and i went home. But I was flumoxed. I felt her pain. Never in a million years did imagine our conversation could get so akward. Could anyone suggest to me what happened? Appologies for such a trivial question but I'm quite sensitive to how people feel .
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2006): Just tell her that you noticed yesterday was a bit awkward and apologize and that you didn't intend for it to be so.
Tell her that you think she is a good friend and that you are more than willing to help her out in the future.
She could have liked you and being that confined was systems overload. She could have had an upset stomach. She could have been anxious about things not work related.
You said yourself you are both good friends and you didn't mention you had a romantic inclination towards her so...just continue on being good friends.
I don't understand why people expect that they should always have a good day and that things should always be peachy with their relationships; it just sets you up for a big let down.
Chalk it up to an off day.
Have a good one.
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reader, Teatree +, writes (13 July 2006):
Teatree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGoing into work now... wish me luck..
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (10 July 2006):
 I respect the opinions of the other agony aunts here, but it could be anything, really...Could it be perhaps that she had had some bad news, and was still reeling from it; and maybe she did'nt want to bring it up for fear of bursting into tears over it, therefore putting the both of you in an awkward position? Maybe it will come to light in the fullness of time. Meanwhile just be open about it with everyone (not gossip), but if anyone else has noticed a change in her behaviour..this could shed some light on the subject, as it does seem that the air has to be cleared, and this could take the weight off her (and your) shoulders!
Or if, as you say, you have a good working relationship, perhaps you could just wait for the right moment and e-mail or ask her outright as a friend if she is ok now, as she seemed concerned about something 'and you did'nt like to ask at the time as it may have been personal'. I do hope I have been able to help you, as you don't want misunderstandings in the workplace, after all..people can come to the wrong conclusions!!
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reader, Teatree +, writes (10 July 2006):
Teatree is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe's very attractive but I'm married very happily and would never come on to her. She's aware of this too. Although in saying that, I have suspected in the past that she was a little fond of me.. but I have never entertained this side of our friendship.
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