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*utterfly77
writes:I am seperated from my husband. I have being seeing a guy for two and a half years. He has a partner (he is divorced). He has a partner and has done since I've known him. We have been having a sexual relationship. We were friends before this all happened. He was supposed to move his partner to the house he used to own with his ex wife over a year ago. A year has dragged on and now he is about to move her in a few days. She won't be joint owning - he said he didn't want to do that. He continually says he doesn't want her to move in. His youngest son and her only son will be living there too. We have talked repeadedtly about what we want, however, I've never felt strong enought to admit to him that I'm in love with him. We have skirted around the issue. I now believe this is my last chance to tell him how I feel, if only to give myself closure. He isn't married to this woman and I feel if he didn't want to move her in he doesn't have too. It may sound like I believe everything he tells me - but - I know enough about him to know he doesn't want her to move in. What should I do? I also don't know how to let go of him either. I don't know if we will be able to see one another once she moves in. I don't need judgemental answers. We all make mistakes but I know how I feel about him and I want to try and do whats best for me. I am 99% certain he is in love with me too. I feel if I don't tell him I will regret it. Thanks for reading this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2011):
Tell him how you feel yes, but I don't think it'll make a difference - just make you feel better to get it out there
He could turn round and ask you to move in and dump his partner but I doubt it, he's had 2.5yrs to do that already
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 June 2011):
 Way too crowded for my liking. I'd "pull the plug" if I were in your spot
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reader, tommy2k7 +, writes (23 June 2011):
 You will regret it if you don't tell him. As the saying goes, the biggest regret in life is the things you didn't do. So, even though it may seem complicated, take a risk, you'll be kicking yourself if you don't. Then you'll be asking yourself What if? all the time.
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