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male
age
36-40,
*nadin
writes:Hi, I have a confusing GFShe's playing hot and cold at the moment. It really bugs me, perhaps I am putting too much thought into it as well, anyway here goes:recently my gf has started telling me that I've become harder to talk to, she thinks I am the one to blame, yet when asked for examples she cannot come up with any, I retort saying that she is the one that's not making any effort, I've asked her plenty of questions only to be met with long silences on msn or text. I am a naturally quiet person as it is, but I do make the effort to talk. When I say to her that she is to the contrary the one that hasnt been talking back as much, she goes silent for a few seconds, then changes the subject, so I feel it's something that's being projected onto me, and I am a quiet person naturally so it's just easier to add to that?I also feel she's been paying my friends and other people a lot more attention recently instead of me. for example I would ask a couple of questions, like how was your day for arguments sake, she would say ok, then follow it up with sorry I'm talking to (my friend) "bez" and her ex. It's not bothered me too much, it has been on the back of my mind whenever her mum brings it up saying "I don't think she cares about you as much as she should" I sometimes agree, when I arrive at hers after work, she takes half an hour to come down from her room to greet me, she sometimes just says "I forgot you had arrived" or "I was busy talking to people." This weekend, I took her to the seaside as it was nice, we went for a walk, had a bit of junk-food and played on the slot machines, she complained that she wanted to treat me for a change, but she forgot her card. We then cuddled up under the duvet on the floor in my room and watched benjamin button, which she thought was a confusing story-line, afterwards she tried to make love to me, but I was too tired and I went flacid after a few mins, we then just cuddled up, sunday I took her to a couple of pubs and then we went back to her house so she can eat her dinner (which her mum typically forgot to serve up), I went home and she wrote on facebook that she had a lovely time with her bf, and she sent me a text message saying she loves me.When I got home later that evening, I texed her that I'm home and asked her how she was, she didnt reply, so I went online to msn and asked her there, I got a few short answers to my 3-4 questions and that was that for the night, she went offline without a goodnight or anything. She usually says goodnight and sweet dreams. I texed her at 11, asking if anything was wrong, cause there was no goodnight and she didnt talk much, she said nothing's wrong and that she was naked ;) I replied ooh really? What kinda things would you like me to do while taking advantage of how naked you are? I got no reply,Today she seems moody, short texts, and she had arranged for her friend to see her tonight and forgot to tell me, I texed her saying I was tired and was just going straight home she replies with good I forgot to tell you my friend was coming so you couldn't come round anyway. This girl confuses me, why is she hot and cold, what's her game? Why does she blame me for her blatant lack of interest? My friend even got stuck in and brought up the fact that she seems to be talking to him more than me.
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reader, little me 05  +, writes (1 April 2010):
Well to be honest....I am a girl, and they act like that when something is wrong....Wrong as in does not want to be with you nomore.....she is playing you I think....
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