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anonymous
writes:Hi, in the past ive had my heart broken. I've been in two relationships and got cheated on in both instances. Since ive gotten over them, i've become friends with my ex's and at some point they've both regretted their actions and wanted me back. Although i can safely say ive moved past the hurt and betrayal, i think i have some underlying trust issues. Im with a new guy now who is amazing and treats me so well, and im messing it up by being paranoid and not trusting him, not giving him any space. I try to control the relationship and i can see its pushing him away. Im trying to give him space now but it's so hard as all my natural instincts tell me to check up on him to catch him out. When hes not like that.. all of my friends tell me hes decent, I know deep down that he's decent and wouldn't hurt me. I know what im doing is wrong - smothering him, yet i don't know any other way to handle it. I know i need to give him space - ive just forgotten how to trust. How do i stop these thoughts? If i dont learn how to soon im going to lose him!! i don't want to lose a perfectly good guy just because of my emotional insecurities!Thanks...
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