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writes:I met someone last weekend and he asked me out on a date via text on Monday past, i agreed and when he asked me how old i was and i responded (we are both in our 30's) also asking him when will i get to talk to him because i prefer that (especially when HE is the one wanting to see me again and we don't know each other)... i never heard back. Why would he not ring? Why now go all quiet? he was the eager one at the start but when he found out i was near his own age and i wanted him to ring me he has gone quiet, though he hasn't cancelled the date, i find it a bit rude! My question is do i even bother now if say he decides to ring me tonight? This is my first date in two years it's unnerving.Would appreciate some insight please, you guys were very helpful to me in the past and I don't want to be played or made a fool of by a man again... so your input would be helpful
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reader, Chippy2  +, writes (20 August 2010):
I wouldnt even bother to pick up the phone if he does call about the date - I would just txt back to him and say that you are not interested - sorry.
There is no excuse for anyone of any age to have this type of behavior if they want to get to know someone.
If you allow him into your circle of space I am afraid he will be bad energy!
Good Luck - Just know there are better guys and more mature guys out there - Learn RED FlAGS before you start dating again and know what your boundaries are -
Two excellent books are 'The Soulmate Secret' and 'Deal Breakers' -
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reader, Angeliz78 +, writes (20 August 2010):
Angeliz78 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies....No we did not meet online, met in a club last Saturday night very briefly but we hit it off and exchanged numbers... at his request. I could have called yes but I was not sure about whether I wanted to see him again... or he me for that fact.. until he actually asked me out.. but I would have thought he would have phoned and asked me so that we could both get an idea of each other's personalities a little bit. It was on Tuesday this week that I mentioned about talking on phone... but since I sent that text I heard nothing since... and now it is Friday and the date is TOMORROW night. He could have just sent a text back saying will call me such a day prior to the date and I would have left it at that. I agree it is odd how he is in his 30's and asks me out via text.. i would have expected that from a fella in his early 20's maybe. Yeh he could be busy... but he wasn't at the time we were texting and it only takes a minute to send a text, at least out of courtesy.I may not hear from him anyway so may just forget it, but if he does happen to ring i will answer and see what he has to say, manners goes farThanks again :)
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reader, Daneah +, writes (20 August 2010):
I've always heard that texting and emailing is a cowards way of communicating... that is outside of personal texting with family and friends. If a person is asking another out on a date, it would only make sense to communicate this desire through the old fashion way... pick up the phone and talk. My first feeling when I read your post was he isn't looking for a serious relationship, that's obvious. He's may also be doubting what he's doing and that makes you curious as to why? I would definately be putting my guard up with this one. Maybe he was just busy, but is that any good way to start a new relationship and if that's true, than what kind of joy is there in someone whose even too busy to return a phone call. I would take babysteps with this one and not be so anxious to jump into dating. Good Luck...
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Did you meet online? I find it strange for a 30-something-year-old to ask you out by text. That denotes faulty communication from the start. Texts shouldn't replace real communication, as much as they are useful sometimes. So this doesn't make a good impression.Neither does the fact he didn't return with a call after you expressed your preferance to talk, so he left the details of the date up the creek without a paddle. Normally I advise to go on a few dates even if you are not sure you like the person, if only to gain some experience and you can always agree to leave it at friends if there is no spark, but it's your call. Then again, you could also have called, after the first text even.
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